(Not) Sleeping with a snorer...

[SkafaceClaw]

Morning, posting here for traffic really...I'm sure you can tell from the timing of my thread that sleep is an issue.

Stuck in a hotel room wide awake for the past 3 hours due to heavy duty snoring. My dp has driven all day and it's not fair to wake him. He's even trying out some nose goggle to reduce the sound for me. I'm sat with ear plugs that are doing nothing.

Usually I would just take myself off and sleep in the lounge - invested in a futon mattress as our 3yo dc has the only other bedroom.

My dp gets really hurt about me skulking off by I cannot find an alternative. How do you make them feel better? Our lives seem so much more separate...

What I'm really asking here are two questions?
How do other people cope with loud snorers?
Any recommendations for a good hideable bed/mattress that will get a lot of use?

Thanks if you made it this far!

No advice I'm afraid, but plenty of solidarity.

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DH used to be the same. He stopped drinking, took up running and lost 3 stone. He's not snored at all since.

I tend to push DP onto his side when he starts snoring

Not much help, but as Mumbod said, plenty of solidarity

I'm
Currently in the spare room ! So no advice but I feel your pain

My dp has a terrible problem. Has had the sleeping mask thing etc Losing a little bit of weight can help - but actually he now uses rhynil spray and it's really worked. It's unbelievable. Sometimes he snores softly if he's drunk or tired but it's short lived and none of that awful gasping for breath at all.

I invested in some of these - www.flareaudio.com/products/isolate-pro-titanium

A bit pricey but very good reviews. I used them last night for the first time and they were effective.

I also hung my nose over this innovation apparently attracting a lot of good attention - m.facebook.com/smart.nora.inc/?locale2=en_GB

My dh is currently in the spare room, I'm past the stage of worrying about offending him. He snores on his back and on his side I can hear him through my earplugs. He's very apologetic and I love the bones of him but I need my sleep too and that's basically what it boils down to.

I feel for you being in a hotel room unable to sleep, it can really get you down.

My late DH was an epic snorer. I kind of got used to it, even though it was ear shatteringly loud, it was rythmic, so sort of soothing in a strange way. Plus, if I was wakened by the snoring and I poked him, he would take himself off into the spare room.

Have you thought about a daybed with a trundle underneath as a hideable bed?

I'm also an early riser due to OH's snoring through the night.

He's tried several products, and I've used ear plugs etc, with no success.

Definitely interested in him trying the nose spray, and will check out the other products mentioned.

Currently either one or other of use moves to the sofa, but it's difficult to catch up on lost sleep.

As so many couples are affected by this problem, you would expect that there would be some ingenious gadget that would solve the problem.

OH and I have separate rooms.
He is a loud snorer . I like my peace.

Separate rooms. I just told him straight either we sleep separately or he has to be prepared for the day I suffer a psychotic break through sleep deprivation and I murder him in his sleep.

I thought snoring was a treatable medical condition. Not many people realise this. Send your men off to the GP for investigation

If he's getting sulky about you moving to a different room, wake him up every single time he wakes you. Every time. For at least one or two nights. Then ask him what's so unreasonable about you wanting to get a good night's sleep without disturbing him?

DH used to snore so badly you could hear him from every room in the house (and some next door). He's given up smoking, drinks much less, exercises daily and has improved his diet so he's suffering less heartburn/reflux - any of those sound like things your DP could try?

We both snore and disturb each other! I think I possibly snore louder though. We have slept in separate bedrooms for about 17 years now. We also have totally different sleep patterns, so always disturbed each other. In hotels we both wear earplugs. They do work, but you have to make sure they are inserted correctly right into the ear canal(those yellow foam ones).
How about a single/double inflatable mattress? If you use one of those electric pumps, they are up in minutes, but fold away into a carrier bag.

I thought snoring was a treatable medical condition. Not many people realise this. Send your men off to the GP for investigation

Sometimes. Not always (sadly). If it's linked to sleep apnea it needs investigating (e.g. If he ever stops breathing in his sleep or is often exhausted even after a full nights sleep). In my DH's case he has loose skin at the back of his throat - they could try surgery to tighten it but it's relatively high risk when the snoring itself isn't affecting his health ( my threats aside ), and would likely need repeating every few years. In his case the best option was to reduce things that made the problem worse. He still snores, just not quite as badly.

I also use flat headphones when sleeping in the same room is unavoidable. www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B01MU09V18/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1500709472&sr=8-3&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=flat+earphones+for+sleeping&dpPl=1&dpID=41cqtA2IRBL&ref=plSrch&tag=mumsnetforum-21

The only thing that saved my sanity and possibly our marriage was separate bedrooms. I realise we're lucky that was a possibility - although we did have to wait till oldest DC moved out. DH has tried pretty much everything - sleep clinics, all sorts - but he's just a snorer. And it is soul-destroying - and pretty much impossible not to get bitter and resentful at 3am while he's sound asleep and you're wide awake.

He can't whinge if he won't do anything about it. I got my own bedroom in the end.

Eventually mine went to the sleep clinic and ended up with a cpap machine. Can't sleep in the big bed anymore though it's too late.

Tell him to go to his GP or seperate sleeping is going to become permanent.

Hi
I had years of awful snoring and it was seriously affecting our relationship. Due to the fact that DH had a serious health issue he was checked for sleep apnoea - didn't have it - but following on from that he was sent somewhere to have special mouth piece made. It was clear plastic, moulded to his own mouth and teeth and fitted over his top and bottom teeth . Once worn he didn't snore at all! He absolutely hated wearing it cos it felt 'weird' but he did cos both of us actually got a decent nights sleep. Subsequently he went on a diet, lost over 2 stone, his collar size went down from 17 to 16 and he's never snored again and hasn't worn mouthpiece for about 10 years.

We have suffered with Dh's inhuman sounding snoring for the past couple of years! He eventually saw an ENT, did a home sleep study, needed further investigation. 6 months later we are still waiting. Bugger this I thought....so bought a mandibular advancement device online.

Oh. My. God. I never believed ANYTHING could stop the ridiculous noise he made. I was wrong! It works like blissful magic. He used to disturb me from the other side of the house. Now we have wonderful silence.

DH and I sleep in separate bedrooms more often than not. He does have a CPAP machine which is a mask that blows air up his nose to keep airways open and stop him snoring, but that makes a noise as well, especially when he opens his mouth whilst asleep. Hotels are the WORST! There's nowhere to go. I have an iPod with audio books and use headphones in hotels. It helps quite a lot, I've found.

This was published earlier this year and is meant to be very effective:

www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1542991803/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o05_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1&tag=mumsnetforum-21

Its basically exercises which, if done properly over a number of weeks, should see an end to snoring

I don't have any advice to add apart from, what does he suggest you do? I mean that might shift the responsibility and encourage him to seek solutions

Wow, thank you for all the advice and solidarity!

Lots to look into - it's good to know it's not just me wanting peace by myself.

Separate rooms here too. Not great for our relationship but I have lifelong sleep problems and simply cannot cope. DH had been through sleep clinics etc tried the mouth guard thing but it didnt work and hurt him. I've tried ear plugs. It's not his fault - he's slim and healthy but he snores in any position even sometimes watching tv ! Currently dreading our holiday as no spare room. May end up on floor in with kids..