(Not) Sleeping with a snorer...

[SkafaceClaw]

Morning, posting here for traffic really...I'm sure you can tell from the timing of my thread that sleep is an issue.

Stuck in a hotel room wide awake for the past 3 hours due to heavy duty snoring. My dp has driven all day and it's not fair to wake him. He's even trying out some nose goggle to reduce the sound for me. I'm sat with ear plugs that are doing nothing.

Usually I would just take myself off and sleep in the lounge - invested in a futon mattress as our 3yo dc has the only other bedroom.

My dp gets really hurt about me skulking off by I cannot find an alternative. How do you make them feel better? Our lives seem so much more separate...

What I'm really asking here are two questions?
How do other people cope with loud snorers?
Any recommendations for a good hideable bed/mattress that will get a lot of use?

Thanks if you made it this far!

I am the snorer in our relationship....

...I feel very embarrassed. I think it's genetic. my mum snores like a train as did her mother.

My DH tends to escape to another bedroom half way through the night. I'm going to look at the exercises in that book I posted the link to above.

Annoyingly, he doesn't make a squeak when he sleeps. Sometimes, if I'm awake and he's asleep, I have to hold my own breath to try and hear if he's even still breathing!

I believe there's an app (though I'm not sure what it is) that will measure the decibel level of the snores. That's only helpful so you can show your DH when he gets grumpy with you for leaving to sleep somewhere else and say "well you snore as loudly as a plane taking off" or whatever. It might also prompt him to seek help if you can show that you're not an oversensitive light sleeper, but that his snoring is actually super loud. Not sure if that's any help

Another wife of a terrible snorer (separate bedrooms). My brother is also epic and his refusal to admit it is destroying his marriage, no kidding, I think he's going to end up divorced. Don't know why men get so upset at being "accused" but my advice is, remind him and yourself that snoring is not a crime or a fault. It's just a practical issue.