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Watches porn because their bodies are better

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yellowox · 22/07/2017 03:59

I split up with my OH back in November we recently got back together and went on holiday he told me that I'm too fat (I have gained 3 stone) I have just been diagnosed with Narcolepsy and it isn't easy. OH told me he almost slept with another woman at work because she had a better body and was really into him, he also admitted he watches porn because they have better bodies now after dd aged 4 was born I was going to the gym looked great but oh said I could do better I gave up trying because It didn't matter what I did I wasn't blessed with a great body even when slim I have cellulite and big thighs. Guys have approached me and still find me attractive I want to lose weight but feel so ugly after oh said this to me I feel like he is looking at everyones bodies comparing them to mine. I didn't know he was so shallow. Aibu to feel gross? He has ruined our holiday

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Shoxfordian · 22/07/2017 08:24

Ugh he sounds so misogynistic
Ltb and go find another man who finds you attractive exactly as you are

Sunshinegirls · 22/07/2017 08:25

I assume he has the perfect physique?
He is being nasty to you OP.
Seriously get rid of him before he completely ruins your self confidence forever and does real damage to your mental wellbeing. Stand up to this bully.

Toadinthehole · 22/07/2017 08:30

I'd say the OP is overweight by whatever her twat of a boyfriend weighs.

RoboticSealpup · 22/07/2017 09:06

He sounds like an ex of mine. Pathologically insecure and used misogyny to cover it up. You can't fix someone like that, don't even try.

specialsubject · 22/07/2017 09:06

Tell him to go have sex with whoever will have him, because you aren't offering it any more. He leaves bank details for child support on his way out.

Catchytune · 22/07/2017 09:17

You shouldn't have got back with him.

Stress and boredom are the main reasons for overeating. Reckon you could reduce both by not having him in your life.

It's much easier to lose weight if you are doing for you and not because your goal is to look like a porn star. Take control. Break up, clear up and find something for you so you aren't defined by motherhood.

Brexitstolemyfuture · 22/07/2017 09:49

Ltb horrible guy.

Don't trust anyone that watches porn

user1471456357 · 22/07/2017 09:53

He's a vile creep.

rightwhine · 22/07/2017 09:53

I would bet good money that he himself doesn't have a perfect physique - not that it matters if he does. He's still awful.

haveacupoftea · 22/07/2017 09:54

You're more than just a body OP. He's trying to break you and it's working. Please get away from him. Love isn't only for people with perfect bodies.

VestalVirgin · 22/07/2017 10:36

Get rid of him. That way, you'll lose a lot of dead weight all at once.

You gave up going to the gym and getting fit because he put you down. He's bad for your health on top of being a superficial jerk.

theporcinegrappler · 22/07/2017 10:39

So he looks like a Greek God does he?

LloydColeandhisCoconuts · 22/07/2017 10:41

He sounds like a proper fucker! Please get rid! Then you'll see how much you are actually worth! Flowers

WineAndTiramisu · 22/07/2017 10:43

Tell him to fuck off!

noeffingidea · 22/07/2017 10:52

OP The only reason for losing weight is because you want to, for the sake of your own physical and mental well being.Not to look good for any man, even the nicest most loving man in the world. Let alone a mysogonistic arsehole.
Dump him, my love. You (and your daughter) deserve so much more than this.

Birdsgottaf1y · 22/07/2017 10:56

He watches porn and went with the work colleague because to him Women are for fucking, but little else.

Porn Stars are either really young, or have lots of procedures, they also have a high drug/alcohol and suicide rate, so not Women any man, but particularly those with Partners and daughters should be putting on a pedestal.

Get out sooner rather than later. You'll watch him living a sad like whilst you go from strength to strength without him.

A relationship should enhance your life, if it doesn't, end it.

Bungleboggs · 22/07/2017 10:59

Is he an Adonis himself!!??? He sounds like a complete arsehole! Please get out, him saying things about your body will have a negative impact on your daughter.

BroomHandledMouser · 22/07/2017 11:00

Oh op Flowers

What a nasty fucking shit he is.

When you get back, pack his shit up and get rid of him.

Meanwhile, you can concentrate on yourself and your DD. Real men don't make you feel like this sweetheart xx

IWouldLikeToSeeTheseMangoes · 22/07/2017 11:01

He sounds like a total cunt. Beyond hope if he can be that casually vile. How dare he say that actually fuming on your behalf. Never mind trying to work on having a "better body" you are no doubt lovely just as you are - he needs to work on having a better personality and I doubt that's achievable. LTB.

chestylarue52 · 22/07/2017 11:01

Some men love big thighs and a big tummy. Trust me 😊 Your body is not a problem. Your partner is.

paulapantsdown · 22/07/2017 11:02

Yeah you've got about 13 stone to lose - the fucker you are with. Dump his sorry arse.

VestalVirgin · 22/07/2017 11:09

Thinking about it, if you can't bring yourself to leave him for your sake, you should leave this asshole for the sake of your daughter. She shouldn't grow up thinking it normal for men to treat women like he treats you.

Serialweightwatcher · 22/07/2017 11:22

If you had a best friend or daughter saying this, what would you advise? I am hoping you would say get rid quick and find a man who loves you for you and everything about you, thinner or fatter .... why on earth are you putting yourself through this - life's too short. He is dragging you down - you can't possibly be happy, so please do the right thing for yourself and give yourself chance to have a good life with someone who is worthy of you

Ineedmorelemonpledge · 22/07/2017 11:55

If you only recently got back together then he probably hasn't even properly unpacked op...which will save you both a lot of time and hassle when he leaves....

I'd be almost tempted to agree with him on the bodies in porn - most of the men also have washboard stomachs, scrotum tighter than a boxing glove, and wangers like a roll of wet wallpaper.- how does he match up to that?

....but to be honest I wouldn't even waste anymore breath on conversation with him after I'd said "get out, useless tool..."

professorvape · 22/07/2017 12:07

End it. What an awful man! I'd be pinning pictures of topless Ryan Reynolds on the fridge and leaving magazines open on perfume ad pages, making comments about what a shame it was that he couldn't put more effort in at the gym while pointedly staring at the pictures and glancing up at DH's body. But I'm a childish cow Grin seriously though, he needs to be dumped from a great height Angry you deserve nothing less than a man who loves every inch of your mind and body, NOT some delusional, shallow, arsehole misogynist.

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