Handhold please *lighthearted*

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Long post **

I don't want to hear the usual "break up with him" THIS IS LIGHTHEARTED.

So I'm sat in the bath in the dark (long day) have some little twinkly lights up and a few candles (against the decor rules of MN I know but purely temporary, reading through the MN Classics, about the fatball to be exact (hilarious)

Anyway.. DP walks in the bathroom, turns the light on and sits on the toilet to do a poo!!!! We have 2 toilets, one main and one ensuite and we have a no pooing rule in the ensuite but that's another story 🙄😂

I absolutely lose the plot because:
a) I'm in the bath
b) he can shit on demand so it could have waited
c) he really could have went in the ensuite (i would never have known as it would be a long time before I got out)
d) he does it on purpose

He then proceeds to tell me that I should be THANKFUL that he feels comfortable shitting on front of me!!!!

If only my day could get worse 💩

We only have one toilet so occasionally DH has to poo while I'm in the bath. He's always very apologetic and I tend to pull the shower curtain across. Fortunately they don't tend to be stinkers!

'We only have one toilet so occasionally DH has to poo while I'm in the bath.'
We only have one toilet and dh has never had a poo while I'm in the bath. Don't you just say 'i'm off in the bath does anyone need the bathroom'? Barring medical problems I can't understand how people can have such uncontrolled bowels.

I have doubts about a fairly new relationship because he is far too comfortable farting in front of me. I've sort of jokingly told him off for it but think it might become out first proper "discussion" if he doesn't get the hint soon. I'd be absolutely outraged if he actually forced me to witness him shitting. I'm glad it's a lighthearted problem for you but I would have a major strop!

It's utterly fucking vile. And as a pp said, it's intrusive and controlling. And not in the least bit 'lighthearted.' You have another loo and he purposely comes into the bathroom when you are relaxing and having some 'downtime' to have a fucking stinky dirty shit. Shit is gross and him sitting there DELIBERATELY doing one when you were relaxing in the bath is twisted and nasty.

We have been together over 25 years, and have never had more than one loo. Not once, ever, ever has my husband come in and shit when I am in the bathroom. Not. Once. And I have done it to him ONCE. I had a poorly tummy, and he had gone in the bathroom and had been in there half an hour, and I said 'I am so sorry I really need to poo. Will you be long???!' He said 'come in and get on with it, I will spray something!'

Then he pulled the shower curtain around, and I quickly did what I had to do, and shot out. Then I heard him spray some body spray, and come out 10 minutes later. I needed it desperately and he gave the OK for me to come in.

But what the OP's husband did was nasty.

I can piss in front of almost anyone, but couldn't shit in front of witnesses* if my life depended on it.

Thankfully, DP and I totally agree on this point. He wouldn't dream of having a crap in my presence.

*The dog doesn't count as a witness. She loves to join us in the lav.

Extremely grim.

Most adults can hold on to or time their poos such that they don't need to interrupt someone in the bathroom.
And I say that as someone with severe IBS

MyrtleMaracas it's nothing to do with DH's lack of bowel problems, it's to do with the length of my bathing sessions!

*lack of bowel control, I mean

What is sown is eventually reaped.

The no pooping in the ensuite is an odd rule and effectively means you only have one pooping toilet and two peeing ones.

Its grim to come in and just do it but he may have been desperate. But there is also a difference in how bathrooms are perceived. The snowflakes thinking this behaviour is controlling really need to get out more.

I am always amazed on these threads at the amount of people that are ok having a shit in company... Personally I think it's just grim but each to their own

My DP came into the bathroom to poop when I was in the shower once after we had discussed that I found him doing incredibly stinky poos while I was showering rude (I like fairly long showers to relax and always do ask if he needs the loo before I go in). I just turned the shower head on him while he was fully clothed, he hasn't risked it since 😂

@scottishdiem Its grim to come in and just do it but he may have been desperate.

But before the desperate stage, there is a "need to go sometime soon" stage. And OP can't have been in there that long to go from "yeah, could do with a poo soon" to "I can't stop it coming out RIGHT NOW!"

(in fact unless he had immediate onset raging squits, he should have been perfectly capable of waiting/using the off-limits en suite as emergency - OP hasn't mentioned any health issues which may have been highly relevant to her post)

We have a no pooing allowed upstairs due to him being able to knock out the dead with the stink

@BouncyHedgehog My OH has done this on more than one occasion. And I really like to boil myself so the room is normally steamy from the hot water which makes it even worse, like some sort of horrid shit-sauna!

He's never gone while I'm in there though. Had to pee while I was in the shower once, which I'm fine with. In fact he seemed more traumatised than anything, did NOT want me peeking.