Is she shit stirring or am I mug

[Mousedl1]

So to cut it short I split from Husband not too long ago and have since meet a lovely man we will call him A. We have been seeing each other for 9 weeks and been a 'couple' for 4 weeks. At the weekend he invited me to his friends to meet him and his wife. Everything was nice and they seemed nice, later that evening friends wife messaged me to say it was nice meeting me and A had asked her husbands opinion of me and A talks about me all the time but it's always good stuff which is fine.
The next day she messaged me as she needed some help with something medical so I popped over to her house. She proceeded to tell me that A told them I keep slipping up and saying I love him. I have never once said this as it's a new relationship and I don't as of yet. I messaged A who said she was talking shit and I have never said that.
She also told me a woman 15 years younger who he went on 1 date with before me keeps messaging to meet up with him on sundays but she expects he prefers me as I live closer and she is further out so it's easier to date me 😳 I refused to really comment and said it's up to him and I won't chase a man and he chooses to see her that's his choice but I won't be messed around. I have spent every Sunday (day and night) with him so know he hasn't meet her.
I told A what she said and he was not happy and proceeded to send me screen shots of his phone messages and texts to show he hasn't messaged anyone else. I deleted them without looking as I feel the need to check his phone.
Do you think she was fishing for information or trying to gauge my reaction or there is some truth in it and I am being a mug?

I would go slowly with this relationship anyway to make sure it is right for you. In the meantime, block this woman from all means of getting in touch with you, don't agree to see them just as a lone couple and, if you see her at other group gatherings, then just be polite but don't answer any questions or give out any information.

I wouldn't respond to her but keep my ears and eyes open. Your DP may well have been seeing other people, maybe he was spending Sundays with her at some point? there may be a grain of truth in it? although the way she is going about it seems weird if she claims to like you, it almost seems like an attempt to drive you away.

I met one of these psychos when I started seeing my now husband!

She was jealous of me 'intruding' on their friendship and used to tell me things about his ex partners (which I didn't ask to hear, nor want to hear) just to let me know/make me think that they talked about intimate issues together!

She also told me he'd never got over a friend of his who had died and was 'the one that got away'. Whether true or not I thought that was a shitty thing to say to the new girlfriend!

To cut a long story short- finally her husband realised what a nutter she was and kicked her onto touch- problem solved

I think she fancies him.

Block the cray-cray.

She's a mega twat!

Bluntness 100 why would a woman bother to warn off a quite new girlfriend of her husband's best friend? Surely her loyalty would lie with her husband and his best friend, unless she is just a shit stirring bitch who loves a bit of drama and is probably jealous. The reason A sent screenshots quite probably is because he is now worried that the shit stirring cowbag has upset his girlfriend and she is seeming to doubt him because she felt the need to mention it, so he wants to prove he's done nothing wrong

The friends wife may not be as much of a fan of the guy as her dh. And she may not be impressed if he's giving it large about having loads of women after him.
It could of course also be that she is crazy but I think the op should be wary until she knows this guy better.

I am always very wary and won't let my guard down which is why I thought I would ask for advice here as I can over think things and drive myself mental.
He came over last night and phoned his friend on speaker phone about it and his friend said his wife told him she wanted to know how far our relationship was and how I felt about him by testing my reaction on other woman. So yes is making up shit and crazy. A wasn't very happy and told his friend we are very happy and we don't know where he relationship is but we are enjoying each other's company and are excited to see where it goes and we don't need anyone causing problems.

his wife told him she wanted to know how far our relationship was and how I felt about him by testing my reaction on other woman

Not the actions of a sane person. Pity her H, I guess, and good that her H was honest about her machinations.

This not the kind of pressure you want at this stage in your relatively new relationship. I hope you can ignore it and move forward without any more of these interferences.