I am still dwelling on this and want to know whether I am justified in repeatedly getting mad when I think about it. My DH and I both work and have one DD -14. DH works very hard and often away from home in order to provide for us - we do have a nice home and cars however have made a lot of sacrifices to have what we have - hours away from home working, having only one child, no holidays etc. Recently it was my BIL birthday. BIL lives very close to MIL and she paid for the deposit for his house (didn't do this for us when we bought our first house). DH suggest a number of restaurants the 5 of us could go to which would be suitable but BIL said they were all rubbish and insisted we all went to a very expensive restaurant in the city centre. We knew this would be expensive but wanted to do what he wanted to do for his birthday. DH then told MIL where we were going and she threw a fit saying it was too expensive. She is retired, not worked for 45 years and lives very well on pensions with no expenses such as mortgage. DH spoke to BIL and told him what she had said and they agreed to cover some of cost of her between them. Lovely meal was had and when the bill came £190 MIL just looked at DH and made no move to get any money out at all or even say anything. BIL got out all he had £40!!! So we were left will a bill for £150. At this point MIL said very loudly - it's your birthday (to BIL) you shouldn't pay. So in the end DH paid for it all. I just feel DH is repeatedly taken advantage of and it is presumed we will pay for them as we have some money....... MIL also complained when went back to work when DD was 9 months old as we needed the money.......AIBU to be angry?