I'm hoping I will receive some useful feedback here, I'm expecting some brutal comments also and can deal with them. In the grand scheme of it it's small fry.
Met DP 2.5 years ago, he'd been separated a full year by then. 2 teenage children who live with their mum and stay with him EOW and a couple of days in the week. I don't have children, tried and failed to fall pregnant with previous partner.
Male child I'll call him Ben he's 16, female Jodi is 13. I have a nice relationship with Ben but despite trying so hard not so great with Jodi. It's polite stilted conversation at best and slammed door rudeness at worst.
Their mum works a few short days a week and over the summer holidays we have them fulltime as DP has agreed to look after them to give their mum a break at her request. I work full time and have a long commute. I'm not entirely happy about this situation but have little choice. DP also works long hours so honestly they're not going to have the best time as we're both working.
Ben is having big problems with his mum (they both agree on this) and it's being suggested he comes to live with us full time. I seriously couldn't deal with this. Rightly or wrongly I fell in love with a man who's kids live with their mum. I met him online and wouldn't have agreed to meet him if he had children living with him! Flame away but it's the truth. I'm not a bad person for feeling this it's human nature.
Every time I try to talk to DP about this he shouts and slams around, swearing, breaking things. He has zero tolerance of me unless I'm agreeing with him. It's hideous.
I can't leave him as rent is so expensive around here and I've researched the easiest most painless ways of killing myself.
WWYD?