To have my life dictated by pets

[ellarosemay]

Arghhh.

I am leaving my DH. Have everything sorted I think apart from cats.

I love the cats but I can't take them with me and no one I know can have them. Rescues are full.

Any suggestions at all? I can't obviously just leave them.

Can you afford a cattery for a while? Why can't you take them with you?

Good luck, you sound a very strong person. I have pets so know how hard this must be.

I definitely can't afford a cattery. And also I have to admit I don't know when I'd be able to get them so it could get ridiculous.

Your pet insurance might cover emergency foster care?

Where are you and how many cats? I'm not offering to take them, sorry, but I have adopted two cats via Mumsnet, from a lovely family who were not able to look after them any longer. Perhaps there is someone who can help you.

Have you tried local independent rescues? They usually have a line up of people ready to foster. Have a look through Facebook (if you're on Facebook), put posts out on local animal groups about local rescues. I live in a small village, and know of 4 independent rescues within a 5 mile radius, thanks to Facebook.
Obviously don't know the circumstances as to why you are leaving, but well done ella.

www.rspca.org.uk/whatwedo/care/petretreat

www.refuge.org.uk/get-help-now/what-about-pets/

Why cant you leave them with dh?

Give your vet a call, I know someone who was in a similar situation and I called our vet. The receptionist had it sorted within hours.
Best of luck and hope everything turns out well 🐱🌹

It's a bad time of year with the rescues as it's peak kitten season combined with fewer people wanting to adopt as they're going on holiday soon - stray kittens have come in faster than they're going out right now. Things might be a bit quieter in a month or two.

Try friends/family/FB/vets to see if anyone is willing to foster them, perhaps on a short term basis, if not permanently.

What area are you in, I'me a transporter and home checker in my spare time and have a few links with people in rescue across the UK. (As well as adoptive fur mummy and failed fosterer - i.e I adopted my fosters..heh)

Ah thank you, that's really kind. I don't have anyone who can have them. I don't know many people and the only people I do know can't have them either vecause they already have cats or allergies.

Can they not stay with your husband until things get settled? You could still pay for their upkeep.

If you honestly want them back (and you're in London or near by) I will look after them for you. But only if you want them back.

I'm about to put myself forward for cat fostering now I've pretty much all unpacked.

I'm not in London but that's lovely of you.

I think the problem is rescues are so full and I don't really want them to go anyway. Perhaps I had better wait until I've got somewhere when I can take them

Do give your vets a call - you have nothing to lose and they might be able to do something for you quickly.

Good luck and your cats are lucky to have you to look out for them so well!

Thanks Rebecca, I'm a bit cautious - the vet knows DH.

Why can't you leave them behind? Is he refusing to have them, or are you worried he'll mistreat them? Or do you just want to take everything and not have any ties to him?

If they'll be safe staying there until you're settled, I think that's the best option. I know they're your pets and you love them, but please don't stay in a miserable or dangerous situation just because you can't take them straight away.

I'm just worried he might refuse to feed them or let them in. I can't leave them feeling like something bad might happen.

Ah, that makes sense, I totally get that.

Whereabouts in the UK are you? How many cats?

Three - am right in the middle

Ah, I wish I could offer but I think my OH would take umbrage at five cats (we have two already)!

I hope you find a home for them

How many cats do you have?

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