To consider not dating a guy because he is a bad kisser?

[KissAndTell]

Lovely evening, chatted loads, really fancy him.

End of the date and we kiss, but it's awful!!

I'm beyond disappointed. What do I do?!

Kissing is really important to me. I couldn't live the rest of my life kissing like that. Is there any hope?!

Prob not. .maybe give it one more date... you never know he may have been nervous!

Details of the awful kiss please!

Sloppy? Washing-machine tongue? Teeth bumpy?

How awful! Agree with above poster, details needed

First date nerves? If eventually turns out to be awful, then noooo not unreasonable!!!

Did he have terrible shoes? An awful smile? High waisted trousers? White socks with shoes? T-shirt tucked in to said high waisted trousers? All legit reasons for no second date!!!

Oooooh, I dated a terrible kisser (it was like he was doing mouth-to-mouth, totally covered my mouth with his, not lip to lip touching but actually covering half my lower face ).

I was actually relieved to have to dump him for other reasons because I couldn't have lived with that kissing. I was still working out kow to say something without making him paranoid, when the other stuff drove me crackers.

Sorry - no advice, but wanted to sympathise!!

Give it one more try, if its still bad, move on! If you can't get excited by the kiss forget it, my ex was a terrible kisser, really insipid. I stuck with him, but wont make that mistake again as the physical side just fizzled out for us.

Depends on how important kissing is to you really. I dated a man who kissed like a big wet fish, slobbered all over my face every time -- even when he just kissed me on the lips with no tongues involved. It was so offputting. It wasn't the only reason, but a big contributing factor in me stopping seeing him.

I couldn't continue, I'm afraid.

Ew no, it would really put me off. Many years ago I had a snog after a blind date and he was shaking with nerves. I could never have gone out with him again after that. Awful, I know.

Could you try and help him improve?

Second trashcanjunkie. My current boyfriend was a terrible kisser when we first met. A year and a half later he's like a different man. It turned out we just liked really different things and have talked and found an approach that works for us both. I wouldn't change him for the world now.

Washing machine tongue

Oh! Washing machine tongue? I've experienced that! Rank!

If the chemistry is there and you do fancy him, I would be inclined to give it another chance - but next time you see him, instigate a playful, flirty conversation about preferences, asking him how he most likes to be kissed, before telling him how you really like to be kissed... you could then offer to show him. Worth a try!

If something as fundamental as the snogging is putting you off then the relationship is destined to fail.

If the kissing is bad, you are very likely to be sexually incompatible imo...

For those asking for details, I'm slightly struggling to explain!

Kind of the opposite of the slobbering, wet, open mouthed, washing machine tongue.

Imagine trying to kiss someone who opens their mouth to about the size of a polo mint hole, and you kind of get the idea.

Oh god I went out with a guy who did the tiny mouth tongue jabbing kissing. It was awful.

Oh dear he sounds v inexperienced. On the one hand there is potential for vast improvement if he just doesn't know that he should relax his mouth. On the other hand - how to broach the issue with him.............

You didn't mention tongue jabbing - was that a feature?

Polo mint size 😂😂😂🤣🤣
That made me laugh. Was it the first time you guys kissed?

Sometimes it's because they haven't kissed anybody in a very long time, it's like you forget how to do it. Partially, it could be because he's shy, doesn't know how, is trying not to put you off etc.
I'd say, if you really like the guy, give it a bit more time/practice.

Do people who are complaining about others being "bad kissers" realise that those people might be making the same complaints about them? It's not "bad" kissing, it's kissing different to how you prefer it. For all you know OP this man has had some previous date tell him he's a bad kisser because he opens his mouth too much & so he's trying to change. Or he's telling his mates that you were an awful kisser because your mouth opened wider than an alligator's.....
Different is not bad, it's just different. Dump him if you don't think you're compatible kissers, but don't say that he's bad unless you'd be happy with him making the same comments publicly about you.

No. If it's not open you'd have to do some weird lizard tongue darting in and out.
Better than slobber though.

I'd give it a go if you've only kissed once. That can be awkward and less than ideal. I know I've had underwhelming first kisses with guys who went on to be decent in that area. However, I've also had spectacular first kisses and they never disappointed, so be prepared to cut your losses.

Do people who are complaining about others being "bad kissers" realise that those people might be making the same complaints about them?

Nah I'm an amazing kisser and I know it. Bad kissing is bad kissing, not just 'different styles'