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AIBU - renting

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Turvey94 · 18/07/2017 23:49

AIBU to be fussing over this? I don't know whether the decision is obvious.

I'll be renting in Sept (Ipswich). I don't have much experience of renting. (University provided spacious accommodation (en-suites and fridges) with shared kitchens.)

I have two options

Option one is to rent an en-suite room in an apartment/house with a single (active) pensioner (70).

Option two is to rent an en-suite room in a house-share with 6-8 other 20/30 somethings.

Both the pensioner and the house share people seemed agreeable though I can't imagine being best friends with either.

I currently live with m&d - I have no issues with this like others would.

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coffeekittens · 18/07/2017 23:55

I'd rent in the larger house if you're going to spend a lot of time at home, I'd find it quite claustrophobic being in a house with just one other person, I'd feel like I'm being watched in a way. But that's just me.


EastMidsMumOf1 · 18/07/2017 23:57

Depends on what your lifestyle is like really. If your a fairly sociable, night owl type person Id go with the share with the 6-8 but if your more of an introvert like myself Id go for the pensioner. Only problem with the bigger house share is youll probably end up lumbered with their otherhalves and their social circle most nights too, pros and cons of both tbh.


EastMidsMumOf1 · 18/07/2017 23:57



53rdWay · 18/07/2017 23:59

Would option 1 be as a lodger? That would affect my decision quite a lot.

Option 2 sounds like what you're already used to. If you're happy enough with that and the new housemates seem okay, you're probably safe enough to go for that one.


grumpysquash3 · 19/07/2017 00:03

How about looking for another option which suits you better than the previous two?


Turvey94 · 19/07/2017 00:08

53rdWay If it was as a lodger how would that affect your decision?

I'm an introvert Eastmids.

Option one baddies: Judging behaviour, privacy, isolated

Option two baddies: Noise, more people, more mess (Uni experience)


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Turvey94 · 19/07/2017 00:09

There isn't another option unfortunately - budget/location etc.

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AlmostAJillSandwich · 19/07/2017 00:12

I think i'd honestly go with the pensioner. Unless the house with the 6-8 others is very large, you'll never get any space apart from in your own room. With the pensioner you won't have to worry about people thinknig its ok to borrow any of your stuff, theres not 6-8 other people to leave all ther mess and clutter and dirty plates in communal areas, to come in at all hours, to have guests etc.


thebigbluedustbin · 19/07/2017 01:19

The house share sounds like a nightmare. I'd go with option 1.


Cocklodger · 19/07/2017 01:23

I'd only consider the larger house share if I was a party animal.
Tends to be quite busy and loud in those houses. Even if one person has someone/a group around once a week that's nearly no time (or no time) to have a quiet day/night.
There'll almost certainly be someone who's like a snail leaving a trail of mess wherever they go.
Whereas with the pensioner they'll probably be quieter. I wouldn't worry about them judging you to be honest and I'm not sure where a PP got that from.
If you're a quiet person and keep to yourself mainly I'd definitely go with option 1.


53rdWay · 19/07/2017 07:32


HipsterHunter · 19/07/2017 08:05

I'd go for the bif house because I like to have friends home, and I prefer to be on an 'equal' footing rather than a lodger in someone's home.

But if you're not thinking you'll be working and sleeping and going out to see friends the pensioner house could be good.


EastMidsMumOf1 · 19/07/2017 10:54

Unless you were planning on creating the red room from 50 shades in his house then I doubt he will judge you as long as hes getting his rentGrin
Have you viewed the properties and/or met the current tenants?

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