to expect to pack up together when off for a holiday with kids?

[blondieblonde]

That's just it. He has gone to bed - nothing yet done. Leaving tomorrow pm. I feel completely livid, and was expecting friendly evening of putting together the bags, cleaning out the car etc. AIBU?

Is he more a last minute packer? My DH would assume tomorrow AM was ok but I'd be like you and want it all fine tonight.

I guess it depends if you're both out all day tomorrow. If so, then YANBU. Both working = both pack. One at home = the one at home packs. We normally go on Thursday evenings, my husband works until the last minute, so I pack. This year we are going on a Sunday, so we all pack.

He's an ultra-crap packer. Has never managed to do more than clean the car and keep me company while I pack / check bins are out. But this is a new low.

I can't relax if I'm not packed the night before.

I sometimes have panic dreams where I am going away on holiday and I haven't got packed on time and i'm frantically trying to assemble my wash bag or something. Pretty stupid! I usually only get them about more tricky packing situations like hut to hut ski touring but still. I KNOW what I'm packing and I KNOW how long it takes and where things are!

I should point out that I've been ill this week and really need a break. How is it a break if I have to kill myself the night before we go while he sleeps?

Well what are you doing tomorrow morning? Unless one or other or you is at work or something, then just do it then.

I guess so. It seems last minute. It's a camping holiday?

Why has he gone to bed so early? Have you had an argument about it or did he just go?

Honestly, packing tomorrow am is fine.

*Today 20:55 blondieblonde

I should point out that I've been ill this week and really need a break. How is it a break if I have to kill myself the night before we go while he sleeps?*

It's not, just leave it and go to bed. Take a leaf out his book

If you leave late, it's his fault and let him know that it's his fault. You can't do everything ( although you probably could if you weren't unwell!!). DHs can be such fuckwits in these scenarios.

So are you at home tomorrow during the day? Just do it then, it's stressful but realistically it should take no more than about 2 hours max.

Go and wake him up. Or if he won't get up, leave half for him to do.

And don't pack any of his things.

I got in the car with my late DH once. He'd been working on a deal and only just managed to finish on time. Got into car, put it in reverse and said " where are we going" aaagh

I spend a week getting things together, making lists and packing. DH gets the cases outvoted of the loft after I have asked him 55 times and then 5 minutes before we go he packs badly forgetting all his essentials like shorts and pants and then he spends an hour and a half faffing about with wires, chargers and adapters and then at the last possibly minute we leave the house and go on holiday where, once we are through passport control he then spends the next hour looking at and buying more wires and adapters. That is how preparing for holiday works for us

Ok I feel a bit better now after reading your stories. God, why can't men be more like women?

Yes, my dh seems only to worry about wires and chargers too. Pants, socks, trousers, shorts and shirts do not seem to matter at all!

LTB

Kidding ^^^

I once told my daughter it'd be easier if she fancied women rather than men as I just don't get how men think.

I appreciate its crap but why didn't you say something to him when he said he was heading to bed? Or get him up when you realised that's what was happening?

I don't know, sometimes I get the impression it's easier to come on to MN for a moan that actually resolve the situation in RL.

Oh have you seen the camping thread...

Go to bed. Leave it to tomorrow and do it together / get him to do most of it.

What's the worst that can happen? You get to the campsite an a bt later than planned?

Just do your own bag of clothes tonight so you are sorted.

I might make a list of important stuff a few days before we go & pull out a few crucial items, but I'm a last minute packer. I don't think it's necessarily a man woman thing.

It also wouldn't be a friendly evening in our house. We would be snarling at each other for getting in each other's way in 5 minutes.

If you have tomorrow it's fine honestly. I get the annoyed bit - personally I would forget anything I could get away with that he would like to have if he won't contribute. I don't get bitten by mosquitos so never ever took mosquito repellent after the first time I realised then boyfriend thought I was responsible for packing , so he learnt to pack for himself 😆.