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Give me a slap please.... DS not invited to party

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HTKB · 17/07/2017 12:52

DS is 5, just finishing Reception. He seems to have made plenty of friends and has had lots of party invites and play dates. Teachers comment that he is popular with good friendships.

There have been issues with 1 particular boy, G. G became quite possessive over DS back after Christmas and it was flagged by the teacher and sorted. Since then they do play together every day at some point but G is often unkind to DS after a while. DS often talks about G in a puzzling way, trying to figure him out and why he says this and that and does this and that but is then nice again etc. DS seems intimidated by G too and is still under the impression he has ask G for permission to play with other kids etc. Having said that he's become much more assertive with G.

The parents are lovely and I often socialise with the mum. The boys also go to the same childminder once a week.

Anyway, you can see where this is going.... G teasing DS a lot at the weekend at a party, that G was having a party and DS wasn't invited. Wasn't sure if this was true but confirmed with a few discreet texts to some other mums. DS is sad but mainly puzzled as to why "they can't find room for me Mummy". I've been breezy, and we are busy anyway AND I suspect the friendship is toxic anyway and I don't particularly want to encourage it..... so why do I feel so upset?

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Aeroflotgirl · 17/07/2017 18:49

I think this is a good thing, as the friendship sounds quite toxic, and it may give ds the confidence to play with others and stand up to G. G sounds a bit of a bully, I would report any behaviour to the teacher.

Aeroflotgirl · 17/07/2017 18:54

If would encourage ds to stand up to G and tell him that he shou,d not feel guilty not playing with G. Gosh these controlling men start young.

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 17/07/2017 20:14

My DS has had TWO non invites this week .what can you do ?

NikiBabe · 17/07/2017 21:03

Teach him to say back I dont want to come to your stupid party.

The mum is a bitch and her son is controlling little sod and quite shocking for such a young child. I'd try nd move him childminders tbh as your poor ds cant get away.

BenLui · 17/07/2017 22:44

Actually Niki my children have found it far more effective to smile politely and say airily "well of course who you invite is entirely up to you" with an insouciant smile.

It corrects the power balance.

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