DH referring to DD as baggage.

[EastMidsMumOf1]

Probably being abit too sensitive but hey ho, more of a vent if anything.
Dh has a friend who has recently moved in with a woman who has 4 kids (I think dcs are aged between 3 and 10) they've only been dating a month or two. Me and DH was talking about it last night and I asked how is he going to manage going from a single man lifestyle to all of a sudden living with 4 young kids, DHs reply was "you came with baggage and Ive managed fine". We have been together 3 years married for nearly 2 and he has never used the word "baggage" before. I tried to keep it lighthearted and said well DD is only hand luggage really as there's only one of her but its been niggling at me since he said it. Is baggage just the general term for a woman who already has children? Aibu to find it really horrible and offensive?

Everyone who has ever been in a previous relationship has baggage, because we all have had some sort of negative experience (so in a way yes all baggage is a negative).
Some will have kids which isn't ideal when they are someone elses not kids you share together, others will have comitment issues from giving it their all and getting dumped, some will have trouble engaging sexually or emotionally because of past abuse.

Even those who have never been in a relationship before can have "baggage" because of insecurities due to inexperience and apprehension, or jealousy of not being the first of the person they get with.

It's basically the same as saying someone has a past, not everything in a persons past is good or ideal.