Why are women so bitchy? Doubt my friend even likes me

[Miaoriely2017]

Not every woman just some of them obviously ..
I've been friends with her for 13 years and she used to be lovely and we had fun etc but the last few years she's changed.
She's made other friends and I know she slags me off behind my back.
Last night me and her and 2 other girls were out.
She constantly tries to belittle me in front of others.
Sly digs like "oh they've put more chips on your plate,that's because they noticed how skinny you are"
Then i said something and she looked at the other girl and smirked.
I just have a gut feeling they talk about me.
One girl went to the toilet and straight away the other two slagged her off.
It's pathetic ..why not just be friends?
She's uploaded lots of pics and none of the nice ones of me just the 1 crappy one.
Do I just stop socialising with them?
Because I feel mega uncomfortable all the time.

*to spend

Hmmmmm wonder why this zombie thread was resurrected......

The OP came on to discuss her 'friends', not the rights and wrongs of men from the feminist viewpoint.

Yes.....back in July......

I wouldn't bother with any of them anymore.

I had a friend or who I thought was a friend, like this once.

We became good friends she seemed lovely our sons started nursery together and she was a family member of one of my family members. She seemed nice couldn't do enough for you, helped out when she could.
I started working at a job with her and as I hate bitchy women that pick at other people and put them down as I've had this at past work places where all the girls just back stabbed each other. I left because I didn't want no part of any of it. This friend assured me that where she works no one is like that they all get along and it's great. I took her word for it as my friend seemed to be really nice and I hadn't seen her bad mouth anyone. First day I got to the new job as soon as she met up with the other workers , She started slagging off everyone else that worked there and all the other girls joined in. Two faced the lot of them. I found myself sticking up for one of the elderly workers there as they were all there ripping her to bits whilst she was outside, I wasn't having it there was no need for it. Goodness knows what she used to say about me.
I cut all ties with her after finding shed been saying stuff about my son etc. He was being bullied by the son of one of her friends. I had it out with the other friend and she said she'd been told stuff about my son. I knew who exactly it had come from.
So I moved schools and got rid of her and it was the best thing I have done.

Interesting that this gets resurrected mere hours after a certain thread on Relationships was deleted.

I am brand new to MN hence the resurrection of thread, today is the first day that I have sifted through, and read, some topics that I am familiar with.

Sorry ;))

So you specifically searched for threads on bitchy women? So you could resurrect them.....

No I didn't specifically search for bitchy women but I typed something about bitchy friends or something similar and a few threads came up and I read the ones that I have had experience in, also as I said I'm new to this site and I thought that you had to watch a thread for it to notify you that it was 'resurrected'...I have been reading numerous threads for hours today, not only this one, seen as the bitchy friend I got out of my life 3 years ago,has just tried to request me on FB then this thread was relevant to me so I posted...surely that's the point of MN I would have thought? I'm also using a very small phone so cannot see the whole site very well to navigate.

Again, I am sorry

In my experience 100% of female bitchiness directed at another female is due to jealousy (and this is true for teenager girls too)

This is just not true. I am in the process of dumping a friend. I am 100% not jealous of her. I just have come to really dislike her. You can truly dislike someone's personality and character without being jealous of that person.

Yes misshelena that's true. I've had to shed a couple of friendships recently. Jealousy of them was not the issue. They were just not nice people and I didn't want their negativity in my life.

@misshelena ending a friendship with someone you dislike is not being bitchy, making ongoing snide comments and gossiping about someone you call a friend is.

OP is experiencing the latter from woman who call themselves her friend, when women round on each other in this way it often comes from jealousy.

I am saying it's not always jealousy, not that it can never be jealousy.

The friend is bitchy, whether it's from jealousy or something else, I don't know. OP should cut her loose.