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Irrational Judgy Pants thread.

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FretYeNotAllIsShiny · 15/07/2017 13:57

I've got new neighbours. I really doubt they are my kind of people. They've got a glittery toilet seat.

What makes you hoik up your Irrational Judgy Pants?

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Nestofvipers · 19/07/2017 21:23

People with eyelashes over their car headlights.

^^ this.

What I hate and judge even more is people who have those "baby on board" signs in their cars. Or even worse are the variants on that such as "princess on board" or "cheeky monkey on board". Just no.

tamaramcnamara · 19/07/2017 21:31

IDoDaChaCha I want one of those. Poo Room. I like calling a spade a spade.

gingergenius · 19/07/2017 21:41

@thornyhousewife - why are they not 'portrait photography'?
I'm pretty sure the MPA, BPPI, and SWWP all consider all those genres of photography 'portrait' photography!!! Hmm

MaQueen · 20/07/2017 16:44

" because they would inherit nothing and otherwise be a drain on the family. That Darcy was rich was the icing of the cake - Mr Collins would have done."

Gwen my point was that 20/21st century readers consider Mrs Bennett as obsessed and ridiculous. In reality her attitude was very practical and sensible because marriage really was the only option available to her daughters, unless they remained spinsters which would have been to socially disadvantage them hugely.

ppeatfruit · 20/07/2017 17:16

This thread is fun Grin I got the spelling of Darcy wrong though didn't I? No doubt because I DIDN'T go private!.

Funnily I taught in a private school and was amazed, and judged, some of the parents with normal children who scraped their money together just to say that their daughters were at the school. It wasn't a good one either. I suppose that they may have benefited socially. SNOBS.

I'm old, I didn't even pass the 11 plus Grin. I'm like my dad was, an autodidact!

Gwenhwyfar · 20/07/2017 22:22

"Gwen my point was that 20/21st century readers consider Mrs Bennett as obsessed and ridiculous. In reality her attitude was very practical and sensible because marriage really was the only option available to her daughters, unless they remained spinsters which would have been to socially disadvantage them hugely."

I don't think 21st century readers consider Mrs Bennett as ridiculous for the very reasons you gave, which are the same reasons I gave. I was answering whoever said that she was obsessed with social mobility. She wasn't. She was rightly concerned about what would become of her daughters.

Gwenhwyfar · 20/07/2017 22:25

"It is a theme running through many of Jane Austen's works and reflective not only of Austen's own upbringing"

And also of her adult life I believe. Until she made money from books, her brother had to keep her.

Gwenhwyfar · 20/07/2017 22:26

"Non instant coffee is easily made with a cafetiere (French press) or Aeropress."

Yes, but why buy a cafetiere or an Aeropress when you've got a kettle and a instant coffee? I don't like coffee myself and I'll be damned if I'm buying a cafetiere just for occasional visitors.

nina2b · 20/07/2017 23:43

Instant coffee is disgusting and tastes of burnt treacle.

early30smum · 20/07/2017 23:58

Mine would be:

Names spelt 'yooniquelee'
Net curtains
Those wall signs/stickers/house rules posters
Quilted loo roll
Children younger than 10 with pierced ears unless for cultural reasons
Babies with juice in bottles

I'm sure there are more...

early30smum · 20/07/2017 23:59

Oh, people who 'check in' to hospitals on Facebook. Hmm

Gwenhwyfar · 21/07/2017 00:04

early - what's wrong with quilted toilet paper?
And why do cultural reasons make it Ok to mutilate someone's ears who's too young to decide for themselves?

early30smum · 21/07/2017 00:08

Quilted loo roll- I don't know, it is just wrong!

Ear piercing- well, I wouldn't do it, but I believe in some cultures it is very much the norm? As far as cultural practices go, I can't get too worked up over ear piercing, but I agree with you, I wouldn't personally do it and it does take away a child's choice later on.

ppeatfruit · 21/07/2017 08:09

Mrs Bennett's was an understandable obsession, but the way she 'carried on' was not . Her over the top attitude\character very nearly put off Darcy and he tried to influence Bingley!

I judge the parents of babies and under 10s with pierced ears because they can be dangerous , (get caught on things) and inhibit them. (I know a lot of women who have ripped ear lobes and had infections with them).

PlinkyTheFairyWitch · 21/07/2017 08:56

Mrs Bennett was married to a silly arse who chose a wife cos she was hot, then ignored and despised her once she didn't deliver him a son and 'lost her looks'. He then proceeded to demean and diminish his youngest 3 daughters all their lives without giving them proper boundaries and care.

It's no wonder she wanted a bit of attention. I'd have the vapours too if I were married to him!

Jivebunny89 · 21/07/2017 12:16

People who take photos of their dying loved ones in a hospice.

This happened to me. My mum was dying of cancer in a very good hospice. My siblings (all aged between 12-19) and my dad would visit every afternoon after school. Then my mum's parents would turn up after we left. We all get on fine, but there's not much room in a hospice room, etc.

One day I was at college and received an email from my grandparents containing photos of them all with my mum. My mum was emaciated, fragile and not even looking at the camera.

What the hell were they going to do with those photos- frame them on the wall?!

I replied to them that in no uncertain terms that this was hurtful, I didn't need to be reminded that my mum was unwell and I'm certain that she wouldn't have wanted the photo taken.

Hospice rooms aren't party rooms. Nobody "owns" the patient, so don't act like you do.

Notreallyarsed · 21/07/2017 12:55

Jivebunny89 that's awful! It wouldn't have even crossed my mind to do that when my mum was in the hospice, it's ghoulish. I know she wouldn't have wanted that either.

gingergenius · 21/07/2017 13:07

People who say having a puppy/dog or cat/kitten is like having a child. When they've never had a child. Gives me the irrational rage.

malificent7 · 21/07/2017 13:22

People who use #### on Facebook

blessed

sisterlovefamily

sisterlovefamily blessed

boak

fuckoff!

Jivebunny89 · 21/07/2017 14:11

@gingergenius I admittedly once used that line to an aunt of mine who asked when were we planning on having kids. An irritating question occasionally attracts an annoying answer.

Since getting pregnant, I wouldn't repeat it though- nobody goes through morning sickness for a cat!

Jivebunny89 · 21/07/2017 14:17

@Notreallyarsed It's a tricky one, as hospices try to be a place where "life happens". They encouraged my sister to bring in her saxophone to play for my mum. They want visitors to feel as normal as possible, in the most testing of circumstances. All families are different, and there isn't a "right" or "wrong" way to grieve. But I appreciate a bit of decorum and thought for the patient.

@malifecent7 People who don't use hashtags properly. I do a bit of work for a relative. She tweets about my work to help promote me. Very nice, but she uses a made up hashtag which nobody will ever search for, and outs her as my relative immediately. It's like #MyJobTitleRelative

Notreallyarsed · 21/07/2017 14:29

I think it all depends on what the patient wants/needs, my mum certainly wouldn't have wanted that. Mind you her hospice was awful, which is why we fought tooth and nail to bring her home as she was miserable. I'm glad your mum had a nice one.

beautygal29 · 21/07/2017 17:34

Chain effing letters on fb and any kind of challenge that I somehow get tagged in! I am never going to do them and then I feel bad because everyone else is! It makes me want to throw my phone and my friends in the bin.

cliffdiver · 21/07/2017 17:37

Children with sunburn.

I judge the parents with my most judgiest of judgy pants.

PlinkyTheFairyWitch · 21/07/2017 17:46

Oh god yes beautygal, and those sodding PMs that start with 'Hey darling' and ask you to put some cryptic crap on your status to, in some unknown way, raise awareness for something or other.

In a similar vein, people who post crap on their FBs without at least googling it or Snopesing it first. Drives me nuts.