To tell mil to shove her opinion on the way I run my home?
hannah1992 · 14/07/2017 12:25
Just had a visit off my mil this morning. I'll start by saying I keep my home quite nice. Kitchen is always clean and tidy lounge is clean barely tidy as that's where my youngest (19 months) plays etc. I have a kitchen diner so table and chairs in there. Completely separate room to lounge no open plan or anything.
Anyway my dd has just had a custard cream biscuit so there were crumbs on the rug where she'd been eating that an playing. She said "there's crumbs on your rug" I said yeah she's just had a biscuit. She then goes on a rant of how "my kids never ate in my lounge, they ate and drank everything at the kitchen table and at that age they ate everything and drank everything sat in a high chair" I was like right ok, so it's warm weather and I'm supposed to keep taking my daughter every 10 min to sit in her highchair to have 2 bloody sips of water then get her out again and carry this on through the day?! So Aibu here to be thinking what the actual fuck?!
I'm not going to set times of the day where my dd can have a drink! I just leave her beaker on the coffee table and she gets it as she pleases
I am literally gobsmacked. My kids eat meals at the table but if they want a biscuit or piece of fruit they can have it wherever my only rules is rubbish is in the bin not on the floor etc. Only thing I give my youngest as a snack in the high chair is yogurt.
I am doing it wrong here?
NellieFiveBellies · 14/07/2017 12:29
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Tazerface · 14/07/2017 12:46
Oh ok thanks. Not sure that would work for me.
Unless you really hate one another (and I assume you don't as she's visiting you) then why get so wound up?
Once you have a baby the world and his wife has an opinion about how to do things - just pick your battles. This isn't important.
Kittykatmacbill · 14/07/2017 12:53
I don't think your mil meant for drinks, but you gave a child a biscuits inamongst there toys so everything will be sticky. So yes snacks in high chair or designated location on kitchen floor so you can sweep up easily and don't encourage grazing. So sorry yabu.
marymarytoocontrary · 14/07/2017 13:06
She then goes on a rant of how "my kids never ate in my lounge, they ate and drank everything at the kitchen table and at that age they ate everything and drank everything sat in a high chair
That doesn't sound like a rant, it sounds like her simply telling you what she used to do.
What a bitch hey, recounting incidences from her past, how dare she?
Why are some people so bloody horrible to their MIL's?
hannah1992 · 14/07/2017 13:07
Our relationship is fine we get on quite well it's just that she's the kind of person that if you don't do things her way it's wrong. Although I don't come across it very often she just peeved me this morning.
I said each to their own. I wasn't brought up that way.
My dd always sits up to eat just not always in the highchair she was sat on the floor with a toy car thing eating a biscuit. I honestly don't see the problem. Obviously I don't allow her to eat laying down 🤔 Not sure where that came from.
Neither of my kids graze either my older one is almost 7
Blowingthroughthejasmineinmymi · 14/07/2017 13:08
I have had this too op, My younger DD was always a fussy eater and we struggled to get food into her. In the end I happily left a sandwhich out for a bit so she could come back to it -or cake or biscuits etc. Ie in the living room.
Mil would just take all food away she could not leave it out...it was more imp to her than actually getting food into her granddaughter.
I dont understand why people freak out about a crumb but then some people have very empty lives.
IWillOnlyEatBeans · 14/07/2017 13:08
My DC eat their snacks at the table, I can'tell be bothered hoovering up crumbs every time they have a biscuit! They can have drinks anywhere.
I don't really care how others do it though, and would certainly never pass comment!
Just nod and smile Op !
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