To tell mil to shove her opinion on the way I run my home?

[hannah1992]

Just had a visit off my mil this morning. I'll start by saying I keep my home quite nice. Kitchen is always clean and tidy lounge is clean barely tidy as that's where my youngest (19 months) plays etc. I have a kitchen diner so table and chairs in there. Completely separate room to lounge no open plan or anything.

Anyway my dd has just had a custard cream biscuit so there were crumbs on the rug where she'd been eating that an playing. She said "there's crumbs on your rug" I said yeah she's just had a biscuit. She then goes on a rant of how "my kids never ate in my lounge, they ate and drank everything at the kitchen table and at that age they ate everything and drank everything sat in a high chair" I was like right ok, so it's warm weather and I'm supposed to keep taking my daughter every 10 min to sit in her highchair to have 2 bloody sips of water then get her out again and carry this on through the day?! So Aibu here to be thinking what the actual fuck?!

I'm not going to set times of the day where my dd can have a drink! I just leave her beaker on the coffee table and she gets it as she pleases
I am literally gobsmacked. My kids eat meals at the table but if they want a biscuit or piece of fruit they can have it wherever my only rules is rubbish is in the bin not on the floor etc. Only thing I give my youngest as a snack in the high chair is yogurt.

I am doing it wrong here?

Ask her if she has any idea how rude and bossy it is to criticise your home? Who cares how she ran hers!

My daughter keeps her house like a palace and my son and dil's is more like a junk shop... who cares? Their homes, their choices.

My MIL doesn't comment on my housekeeping skills, but looks down her nose around the room she's standing in. You can tell she's judging silently to herself. I'm not a clean freak, but I do a deep clean once a week and tidy/clean as we go along. She doesn't make the habit of visiting us thankfully , otherwise I'd have to say something.
Think you need to nip it in the bud OP. Just tell her that your parenting techniques are different, and that an immaculate home is not a priority to you.

My dm has been disgusted with the way I live since I stopped living with her. I make bets before she comes how long it will take her to make a diggy comment (usually cunningly disguised with a fake laugh so if challenged she could pretend she was being light hearted). It's not worth getting upset by people like that.

I certainly do not keep an immaculate house and have no interest in doing so. Your MIL would probably have a mini breakdown were she forced to cross my door.