Stag do - WTF?

[SJaNH]

So my husband has just been invited to a stag do next year. Its for a good mate, godfather to our DD, so naturally he wants to go. However this is the plan..... 2 days skiing/snowboarding in Grenada, then road trip to Marbella for a few days of partying. All in all a 5 day holiday costing around £400 before adding extras e.g ski passes, ski hire, car rentals etc and then spending money on top. So realistically i'm thinking it's going to be around £1000 total, maybe more. We are saving hard to afford a family holiday this year (first one in 3 years), so personally I'm not sure about fully supporting this stag do. Also, why is it that men's stag do's seem to now just be lads holidays? We're not 18 anymore. Now married with 2 kids and 30ish. The groom to be doesn't have kids but similar age.

Normally I'm all for people in couples doing things individually, and I don't think there's anything wrong with a 5 day stag or hen do. However, in your case yanbu, purely because you haven't been able to have a family holiday for 3 years. A stag/hen holiday IN ADDITION TO a family holiday = fine, in place of a family holiday = not fine.

SJaNH

I think the lyrics very apt for this thread. DH and I also have lots of fun together. We also have fun with our friends, our work colleagues, our families.

Luckily we both agree that variety is the very spice of life. If the funds were available I would be pleased to know that DH was enjoying himself on this stag do. He would feel the same way towards me going on a hen do.

@SJanH @JemimaCuddle

Have you read the OP? They haven't been on holiday for 3 years, OP is hoping to go now, but her DH is planning to spend £1000 on a stag 5 dayer.

"If the funds were available ...." OP has said they aren't, and if they haven't gone on holiday for 3 years I'd guess she's right.

I'm sure she'd frisky as hell and is not manicuring her home/demanding he cuts the lawn - just would like to go on holiday with him and children and have a good time.

Op the Cool brigade tales always make me chuckle

I get you. You don't give a chuff about him going, but would find it selfish if you all have to wait another year for a family hol.

I dont think any holiday is worth getting in to debt for but if I had to choose one to go in to debt for I'd choose the family holiday every time over a 5 day bender.