To think finding this offensive is a tremendous overreaction?

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My mum posted the kids some clothes she'd bought, DD (4) got what I assumed were a pair of pyjamas. It was a top with Elsa on and some pink and white stripy shorts. Looked very pyjama-y.

DD loved them and wore them to bed the day she got them. We facetimed mum the next morning who said "oh you're wearing your clothes today". I said "well last night, they're PJs aren't they?". Mum said no, they're just normal clothes. Ah well, that looked like pyjamas, no harm done, and TBF they work well as PJs in this hot weather!

That was a few days ago. Today she rang and said she was offended -yes, her word, offended - that I thought they were pyjamas. She'd 'taken time to pick them out' to be worn as clothes, not pyjamas, and wasn't happy they were worn at night.

I told her she's overreacting, she disagrees.

It's not like she bought her a ball gown and I plonked it on for bedtime, it's an Elsa top! It's getting weetabix down it either way, I don't see the difference if she wears it during the day or at night.

Would you be offended if clothes you'd bought had been mistaken for pyjamas?

No! I'd feel a bit sheepish that my choice was so ambiguous!

Yanbu. Dd has paw patrol PJ's and only I picked them up myself in the nightwear section I'd think they were shorts and t-shirt so I can see how easily it would happen. Your mother is being ridiculous, maybe she feels silly she didn't cop they were PJ's, not that she should feel silly

My son's clothes are frequently mistaken/ taken for pajamas.Often in repeated prints, bright colours in stretchy fabrics.

I just say they're not. I don't take offence though.
Sometimes my children do have a flexible approach with tops particularly. I even deliberately by t-shirt dresses that can be night dresses as spare clothes for my daughters in case of spillages/ impromtu paddling etc.

she's not busy enough if she's fussing about that.

She's daft to be offended.

On the other hand, a friend received a gift of what was very obviously a pyjama set and dressed her toddler in it for day wear. She swore they weren't pyjama like (they were!).

Twice this week my sons gone to nursery in pj tops. Because they don't look like pj tops... George pig and gruffalo tops. Who the fuck cares whether they wear them to bed or wear them out?
Do the clothing choices make dc happy? Yes? Then it's up to them when they wear them (within reason of course)

Are they a set? If so, is it not likely that they are indeed pjs and your mother is overreacting to cover her embarassement at not realizing?

Haha Mums are weird! Just put her in it one day next week and take a photo at 3pm. Out of the house. She'll be alright!

I bet they're PJs and she got it wrong

Not really worth getting offended over. She's probably just hurt if she chose them specially. If I were you I'd just put dd in them as day clothes next time you visit.

Can you post a photo of the pjs/clothes, I'm interested to see if they look like pyjamas to me!

Looking at the label they aren't actually a set, but as they came in the same level I assumed they were! Here's a picture of them

Aw they could work as pyjamas or clothes.

Your DM is BU.

Also, nearly ALL Disney/Character clothing looks pyjama-ery. It's a miracle when kids actually get sent out of the house in non pyjamas

Exactly e1y1 that was my thought too. I wonder if I'll ever escape fecking character clothing of insipid Disney princesses 😫

You can tell if they're PJs because nightwear has to have a label saying 'keep away from fire'

You can tell if they're PJs because nightwear has to have a label saying 'keep away from fire'

Interesting! How come it doesn't say this on normal clothes? Do lots of people put their kids to bed next to a fire

I sent dd to nursery in a nightie once. DH had bought it. I assumed it was a summer dress. I only realised when I washed it and it went a bit bobbly in the way only cheap nighties do. I was

It's something to do with safety laws. Normal clothing must be a certain level of fire retardant but nightwear and children's dressing up costumes are exempt. Ridiculous really, ALL clothing should be made to the same standards.

Anyway, your mother is being ridiculous.

I bought DS an outfit with Tigger on from boots. Short sleeved top and shorts. Was surprised that the receipt said pyjamas. He wore them as day clothes. He's now 16. Should I ask him if he's offended? .

I can remember my DM being very reluctant to let me wear my kiara (from lion king 2) pyjama top out to the park when I was about 5. Some people do take issue with pyjamas as daywear, I don't think many children's clothes look one way or the other in many cases. Having said that I will often wear a pyjama top out of the house with jeans, or the trousers with a big jumper, they are as my username suggests, silk and separately just look like normal clothes. Your DM was silly to get so upset though, it wasn't an intentional slight to her fashion choices.

Actually I think it's the other way round-pyjamas etc have to be fire retardant but not normal clothing. I'd be pleased-they will wear nighties etc for far longer!!

My have a whole bunch of hand me down clothes from various relatives where I can't be sure if they're pjs or not, so they get worn in bed. I usually go by the presence of the fire warning label but I've bought clothes that have had that so it's easier to not assume they're day clothes.

The outfit your dd was gifted, I would say with buttons on the ankles and by virtue of being quite a summery too, I would say was not pj's if I'd have been given it, however, your dd loved them and wanted to wear them as soon as she could, which was bedtime. Now you know that your mum intended them as day clothes, your dd can happily wear them all day and even to bed if you wish. So win win.

And yes, finding it offensive is a complete overreaction. In our house we'd find it funny that clothes had been worn either as day clothes for pjs, or as pjs for day clothes, call each other a muppet and remind the person whenever the outfit was worn again.

It's something to do with safety laws. Normal clothing must be a certain level of fire retardant but nightwear and children's dressing up costumes are exempt. Ridiculous really, ALL clothing should be made to the same standards.

It is all a bit nonsense.

Surely, especially pyjamas should be made of natural fibre like cotton or linen, and definitely not coated with some chemical substance to make them less flammable.

Of course, artificial fibres (plastic) melts or burns if brought too close to fire - so it would be more sensible to just put the "keep away from fire" on those!

I'm wearing a cheesecloth tie dye beach dress as a nightie at the moment. Nice and cool!