To think finding this offensive is a tremendous overreaction?

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My mum posted the kids some clothes she'd bought, DD (4) got what I assumed were a pair of pyjamas. It was a top with Elsa on and some pink and white stripy shorts. Looked very pyjama-y.

DD loved them and wore them to bed the day she got them. We facetimed mum the next morning who said "oh you're wearing your clothes today". I said "well last night, they're PJs aren't they?". Mum said no, they're just normal clothes. Ah well, that looked like pyjamas, no harm done, and TBF they work well as PJs in this hot weather!

That was a few days ago. Today she rang and said she was offended -yes, her word, offended - that I thought they were pyjamas. She'd 'taken time to pick them out' to be worn as clothes, not pyjamas, and wasn't happy they were worn at night.

I told her she's overreacting, she disagrees.

It's not like she bought her a ball gown and I plonked it on for bedtime, it's an Elsa top! It's getting weetabix down it either way, I don't see the difference if she wears it during the day or at night.

Would you be offended if clothes you'd bought had been mistaken for pyjamas?

They may well be PJs! As long as they are enjoyed, what's the harm?

My Mum and Dad took DD1 out for the day in PJ's when they were babysiting for a weekend. DH and I chuckled a bit but never said anything. Particularly with childrens clothes, it can be unclear if they're intended for day or night.

Offensive is ott.
I sent dd1 to nursery in a pj set for ages. Key worker asked the 1st time and I said no definitely leggings & top. It was the following year when m&s reissued the new version in a slightly different colour that I realised!
Flip side she had little mermaid leggings & top which were 100% day clothes (per Asda website) . When she took them back with her dad they were in the nightwear section so she refused to believe they were proper clothes!

My MIL took my DD away for a few days when she was about 3 I only realised she had been taking her to the kids club disco in her PJ's short set when she showed me the photos they had developed about a week later pre camera phones.

DD never pointed it out she was happy MIL was happy who cares DD now 22 and seems over it :D

No it's pyjamas and nightwear that have additional special regulations regarding flammability - however that usually relates to how baggy and floaty the style is rather than what it's made of. They're still made out of the same fabric as normal clothes.
Fancy dress costumes are classed as toys and don't need to pass the same flammability tests so can be made out of all kind of shitty fabrics.

My 2 year old often tries to wear pyjama tops for Nursery and normal tshirts for bed, I just let her get on with it, it's not going to kill or even seriously harm her is it? Ridiculous to be offended over it

Easy mistake to make. Ex-DP was always doing this. He took dd to the fair once and every time she went past him on the roundabout she shouted 'Dad! Why have you dressed me in my pyjamas?' 😂

Hmm I'd maybe feel a bit offended if I had spent ages choosing them and they were worn for bed..But if you genuinely thought they were pjyamas I can see no problem. I do think though that some kids character tops do look like pjs and not something I'd choose for mine.

Jeez - the things some people actually get offended about baffles me!!!!
Of course YANBU!

Once when baby sitting overnight I was mightily impressed that DiL and dressed by GD before she left for work. When my son came home he said to her, "oh did you refuse to get dressed again today?"

I had no idea the three quarter length white legging and rainbow top were pjs.

Silly of your mum to be offended but I would apologise and say sorry I'm soooo sleep deprived I don't know what I'm doing, then you'll get sympathy and forgiveness and you can forget about it and move on, I would also make a point of taking a photo of dd in outfit as others have suggested

Anything for an easy life 😁

Is it because she's read too much old willy in the Fail about how people going to the supermarket in their PJs is bringing about the end of civilisation?
There are so many garments (both for adults and kids) that are pretty much impossible to be sure if they are daywear or nightwear, and it's fairly daft to care about it.

Ok, being totally honest here.

Many moons ago, when ds1 was about 9 months old MiL looked after him for the day. She dressed him in a pajama top and trousers and took him to the park like that. When dh asked her why ds was wearing pajamas she said she hadn't realised it was a pajama top and it looked just like his normal clothes.

I was terribly offended. I didn't say anything though cause MiL is lovely.

Actually it still annoys me a bit that she couldn't tell the difference. It was clearly a pj top (you could tell by the cuffs).

So I think your mum was NBU to be offended but she was being very unreasonable to say anything. She should just get over it like i have.

Definitely an overreaction.
My 2 prefer nighties to pyjamas. They're currently wearing H&M summer dresses to bed; at 3 for £8 I reckon they're cheaper than actual nighties. What does it matter?!

Nightdresses, dressing gowns and other garments worn as nightwear must satisfy the flammability tests. Pyjamas and cotton Terry towelling bath robes don't have to satisfy the tests, but then must have a label that states Keep away from fire.

Your MIL was unreasonably offended, but probably felt that her gift was not appreciated.

DH sent dd to the childminder in a two piece swimming costume for a 5 year old once. The bottom fit right over her nappy when she was 1. CM asked me who had dressed her that morning .
Your mum has too much free time on her hands if she is literally offended at this! nice that she's buying clothes though.

Thanks all

I also dress DD in the H&M 3 for £8 dresses for bed, they are more airy than nighties!

This thread reminds me of when I worked in a clothes shop and a customer shoved a pair of PJs in my face and asked if the top was one I'd wear in public, as a "top top". It said "sweet dreams" on it with a picture of a cloud and was clearly a PJ top. I told her no I wouldn't. She looked me up and down, decided my fashion advice was not to be trusted and bought it anyway

She's being ridiculous.

Ime, people who describe themselves as being 'offended' usually are being ridiculous.

Tell her to get a grip, read a newspaper and cop herself on.

I googled and you can buy Elsa pjs with shorts, so not such a stretch!

I would have thought those were pyjamas too.

Ffs, she hardly picked out tones and fabrics especially.

She bought her tacky character clothes. Not a selective little number.

She sounds incredibly precious.

And also has bad taste in clothes for day time

I don't think they look thar much like pyjamas especially the bottoms which look like leggings.
I understand your mums point of view a bit. She bought what she though was a nice outfit for Dd to wear out of the house for everyone to see. By using them as pyjamas it looks like you are saying 'these are good only for wearing in bed not for actually being seen in'. I know this is absolutely not your intention but this might be how she took it.
I would just reassure her that you thought the clothes were lovely and Dd is thrilled with them but you thought they were lovely pyjamas.

You could wear them as either tbh.

More than once we've been out somewhere and I've looked at one of the ds's and realised they have a PJ top on...a lot of them just look like standard T Shirts.

I might have done this with a tracksuit that was DS1's Christmas present. DM never said anything. 😆

How could anyone be annoyed at someone for mistaking pj's for day clothes? Weird.