Oh sod off....

[RudeDog]

Have had a party for DDs birthday - not many kids (8) and one had to bring her little sister as 'they come as a package' (mum doesn't want to be lumbered with one alone - ongoing issue)

Anyway I do pass the parcel - 3 times (as many as I can manage before I cave my own head in)
I was VERY fair - I faced the other way whilst doing the music.

Child with sisters mum 'oh I would have made sure they ALL got a prize.....especially the little ones'

Only hers was a 'little one' - little one was not fussed

AIBU if I had told her to piss off!!!!

(Not relevant but she would not bother putting any effort in for her own children's birthdays and I've been prepping stuff alll bleeding day)

Lol, well she's certainly entitled. Shrug it off. Some people are just twats. It's the only way to think about it. No way does everyone get a prize in pass the parcel. What's the point in that?

Oh I had this once when a cheeky fucker asked if sister could come for tea as well as the friend we'd invited. She got a firm no! Who the fuck does that?

YANBU - she sounds awful. How old is DD and her friends? Next time - no siblings!

She's setting both DDs up for a fall! No I would have said it was a shame when she said the come as a package though! But I can be overly harsh with parents like this!

Next time:

Best smiley cheery face on,

"Sorry no siblings, now off you fuck"

To be frank it's DDs best friend - it's an ongoing issue with the whole 'come as a pair' thing
It's bollocks for her lazy parenting

I posted before that I had offered on many occasions to take friend to beach and therefore filling our car to capacity..... she suggested leaving DH at home so I could take both of hers.
I was flamed that I Shouldn't take other kids to entertain my own I just ask others instead

I should point out there was other games and they'd all had loads of shitty sweets

She makes these little comments about my parenting like she's an expert because she has 2

Girls are 8 - younger one is 5 (and very young for her age as well)

Oh God these parents who insist their kids have to be joined at the hip wreck my head!!

Between the party, the two for one siblings and suggesting your dh stays home ( ) wtf, she is one cheeky cow!

I hate pass the parcel with a passion - both as a kid playing it and as an adult doing it.

I confess though, that as one of the most unlucky kids in the world, I make sure everyone gets a little gift before I go random on the 'winner'

How you haven't told this woman to fuck the fuck off before now RudeDog is beyond me. I mean WTAF. An actual grown up saying her DD1 has to be accompanied by DD2 to the party of her BF. I have two DD. No way would I insist they have to go to things together when only one is invited. Stand your ground with this idiot.

I have twins and have never insisted they "come as a pair". Quite the opposite, we have always encouraged others to invite them separately.

I'd have been pretty miffed at comments re prizes.

Just because she insists they come as a pair doesn't mean you have to indulge it. She actually suggested your DH opt out of a family day out to make space for one of her children who hadn't even been invited, and you still give them house room?

Well she's breeding a lifetime of resentment between the two of them.
YWNBU to tell her to sod off.

You were not unreasonable to not take her to the beach you would not have been unreasonable to not have the younger sibling at the party and it sounds like this mum needs a reality check!! Stand strong don't let her take the piss!!

She sounds like a grade one loon.

How very unfair on both of those girls. Not being able to go on playdates etc., without the other one.

Bloody awful.

She's a shit mum, that'll punish her in the long run.

What a shame she doesn't take advantage to have some one-to-one time with the one she is left with.

Was just thinking this felt familiar, I must have seen your other thread.

I feel sorry for the girls, they'll soon start to realise they don't get to do things alone.

My dd had a friend like this at primary. Her mum always wanted the little sister to tag along. She even asked if the sister could stay for dd's tenth birthday sleepover. The sister was around 7. I said no because both dd and her friend hated it. To be fair, the mum accepted my decision but younger sister had a full-on tantrum about it!

"'oh I would have made sure they ALL got a prize.....especially the little ones'"

Reply ... Great I am sure my kid/s will enjoy the party if they all get a prize.

What happens if the five-year old has a party, does the 8 year old have to go, too? Perhaps to soft play where the big one isn't even allowed in?

Lazy parenting = entitled kids = fucked up society

She's isn't doing them any favours

YANBU

I treated issues such as these as the equivalent of parental puberty.

I was at times irrationally annoyed and others felt like sulking in a corner.

Obviously as an adult I had my "all is well with the world" face on.

Having come out the other side (children now past primary) I can say it gets a whole lot better.

Birthday parties are smaller but no less expensive and far less problematic.

Frankly, you will have an issue to deal with for every party up until about 10 years old - parents or children will undermine the best plans, be cheeky buggers, sabotage your every move.

But this will pass

You move to a new phase where you are expected suckered into only taking 2 close friends to the Harry Potter experience - that's 300 miles away.

Or taking a small group of children paint balling and find out there is an additional cost per extra "shots" that quadruple the cost of the event...

It's just a parental phase, but one where I'm happy to start the menopause

Just rude. I had several comments at my daughters party including:

"Oh you didn't make your cake yourself then" no I fuckin didn't I work full time, had an exam yesterday and have a party for 30 kids today.

"Wow going to lots of effort there" as I opened big bags of Tescos own quavers, said by a mum who supplied one small bag of Pom bars per 4 kids at her kids party.

"You could have made the sandwiches yourself" err I did?! Said by my sister.

It seems parties are a whole new breeding ground of judginess when all you want is kids to have a good time!

Isn't there a thread about a dd being offered a part in a play and the dm doesn't want the other dd to feel bad she didn't get one and wonders if she should make dd refuse the part so she isn't upset - something like that??

Just hold head high and remember that your primary responsibility is for your child to have an amazing party. This usually mean the friends do as well. You have zero responsibility for the additional stuff.

So a dig that the younger sibling wasn't happy = well, very glad that older sibling enjoyed it.

And if you know she does crap parties on top of that, then just smile all the way past it.