Is there a massive financial outlay to a second child?
Yes, your first always costs more as you don't have anything you need but what are the additional financial implications you found to having your second?
Been having a deep and meaningful about if we should have a second with DH and he has raised some valid points about finances in terms of being comfortable now and worrying we wouldn't be as comfortable moving forward.
We have a reasonable income and some disposable income. I work a job share and it's shifts, so we generally pay anywhere between 6-9 days childcare a month. We have a very flexible childminder at the moment.
If we were to have a second, our first would be eligible for the 30 hours free childcare by the time my mat leave ended,which would help with childcare costs.
Yes food bills will increase. Heating bills would be the same. Electricity may increase and water is fixed as we aren't on a meter.
Am I missing anything? I'm getting that urge for a second child. It's weird, between us it was always the other way round, he wanted a larger family and me being an only child was happy with just one. Recently our views seem to have swapped and I genuinely can't imagine not ever having another child.
I am desperate to have another baby but I'm also trying to be sensible too. I don't want to put our family at risk financially either. If it turns out it's a no, I won't lie, I will be devastated but it's something I'll have to get over.
I was just hoping some of you lot would be able to give me your views on having two.
I'd also welcome any stories on how it was emotionally in terms of the shift in attention and having a toddler with a baby. My DS is almost 2.
I know some of what I am asking is quite personal, hence my AIBU but any pearls of wisdom would be gratefully received!
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Caretoomuch2017 · 11/07/2017 21:54
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