what would you do?

[starflowerrose]

If you were in a relationship that was abusive.

Worried about the kids and contact - in other words, don't want him having contact with the kids unsupervised.

No money. No access to money.

Abroad.

Would you borrow money from a friend to come to the uk? wouldn't that be kidnapping the children?

I know solicitors are free for half an hour but after that you pay and with what

any advice atall? desperate!

Go to your native embassy in the country, they should be able to help

I can't really do that but thanks

Are you in Australia?

no

Ok you need to expand. Do you live abroad or are you on holiday?

Live there

Didn't want to read and run. I would have thought a lot would depend on the country you're in now and your connection with the UK? I also think the priority should be your safety and if you or your children are unsafe then you need help. Is there anywhere you can go right now?

Yes, but I'm worried as its not a long term solution

Is your kids' nationality that of the country you live in?

no they were born in the uk

I don't think that would be kidnapping them, then, for a British mother to bring British kids back to the UK.

Why can't you seek help from the British Consulate?

What country are you in?

You can email or phone the Consulate. They are kind and dedicated people and they will help you.

www.gov.uk/world/embassies

If you suspect abuse, it probably is abuse.
Have you spoken to him about returning to the uk?
If he is actually going to stop/forbidden you, then yes, I would do anything to return to a safe place.

Come home.

Sorry for all the stress you are experiencing.
I don't have the answer myself, but I think you must contact the Consulate there.

I havent spoken to him about leaving. I don'tfeel it is a good idea. I can't speak to anyone as the kids are around.

You really need to speak with a local solicitor. Absolutely do not just take the children back to the UK without looking at the legalities.

If you remove the children from their normal country of residence, regardless of nationality, my understanding (lay person) is that you could be asked to return them to their country of residence.

This document looks at if you're worried about a child being taken out of the UK ask it's the other way round but may be useful. A lot depends on the country you're in.

www.gov.uk/government/publications/international-parental-child-abduction

I believe you can get legal aid in dv situations. How easy it is to access/prove I don't know.

The no access to money is abuse in itself.

Email the Consulate. You can look up the address here:

www.gov.uk/world/embassies

i can't but thank you

Why can't you?

Partner may work at the consulate