what would you do?

[starflowerrose]

If you were in a relationship that was abusive.

Worried about the kids and contact - in other words, don't want him having contact with the kids unsupervised.

No money. No access to money.

Abroad.

Would you borrow money from a friend to come to the uk? wouldn't that be kidnapping the children?

I know solicitors are free for half an hour but after that you pay and with what

any advice atall? desperate!

I used to live in the Netherlands. Despite being residents, not citizens and not EU citizens either, when I looked at returning home, it was made very clear that it would be considered kidnapping, and that kids are treated as though they are citizens and the consequences are very severe if you simply take them.

Its fine, just have to stay and work it out

This is a sad post, you sound trapped. I really hope that you are okay Starflowerrose. We're here to support you Lovely. 💐

What country are you in?
Can you call the police?
How old are your children?
Can you get part time work and save for an escape?

This is the second thread that this OP has done about leaving her abusive partner, she was extremely vague on the first one and just dismissed any advice given to try to help her! OP if you are actually coming on for advice/ help you would be wise to try and do something instead of staying in an extremely abusive relationship - one where you and your kids are getting hurt!

OP are you worried that these threads will be discovered. Can you contact a lawyer, is there a helpline? Do your kids have dual nationality? What is your legal status in the country? Can you work and live there on your own? As in baby steps, can you approach this first as a native person in that country would. Instead of thinking of leaving to the UK, think of just getting out of your relationship first. Is there anyone there that can help you?

What if you come home for a holiday and forget to go back? (Take kids to a shelter, etc...)