Post and neighbour!

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So sons HR department clearly misread his address on initial forms.

So post had been going two doors down to neighbour.

She dropped round some letters from HMRC, so DS informed them wrong number house, they've sorted it.

Not had anymore letters misdelivered as far as we knew.

DS had expected some letters from HR department regarding change in salary ......... never arrived, they said they were sent. Anyway they emailed them? So all sorted thought no more.

Tonight, neighbour knocks and has two letters for DS. They wee workplace pension letters, so from this we have assumed that it's DS HR department that are the common link (maybe wrong) but

1. HMRC
2. missing letters from work
3. Workplace pension letters going there.

She's returned to us 4 letters (2 tonight), yet reckons she'd had LOADS! But she didn't know who those were for, so binned them?!? But suddenly remembered our name?

She knocked tonight haven't not delivered a letter for about a year! Saying from now on can your son make sure this doesn't happen again! Again stating I could just bin those and I've had others that I've probably binned forgetting they were yours.

1. You altered us to HMRC, he sorted
2. The letters from HR for son, you've clearly binned. Didn't therefore know they've got wrong address
3. Workplace pension stuff is annual statement, first time received it as it's an annual statement, so yes he will sort.

DS was at work, so she spoke with me, with the demand from now on, make sure this doesn't happen again....

Really aggressive .... I responded with "sorry DS at work, we weren't aware any issue other than the one from HMRC that you alerted him to and he's rectified! But feel free to either put return to sender and put back in post box, further walk than to our door! Or just dispose!

She was stood there saying "I know what these people are like" when I said it's his workplace pension stuff........I said well he can only inform them and it's the first he would know about it"

AIBU to see this as over dramatic about possibly six mid delivered letters in a year. Which if she redelivered the letters could've been rectified!

I don't know. I'd find that pretty iffy if I were your neighbour and would be extremely unhappy about it.

But why is it "iffy" and how can DS have known about the issue if she hadn't raised it? Other than the HMRC letters?

A genuine mistake by his employer with a door number....

It's not up to her to sort out your sons post. Blame his company not her.

YANBU. But some people seem to get really worked up about stuff like this. Your son is correcting the mistake as and when he can; there's not much more he can do!

Rainbow did you not see where I said bin it in future?

If they don't know stuff is going to the wrong address how can they sort it!

It's only 2 doors down. Why hasn't she just pooped the letters into your door with a note saying please sort.

That's what normal people do.

Unless they are paranoid wiredos who think the NDN is a dodgy person up to something nefarious.

Also rainbow. We didn't make the connection until tonight! Because she probably (by her own admission, chucked the letters ).

DS won't BLAME anyone, he'll just calmly say to HR can you change your records.

Such aggression and blame is not needed, it's HUMAN error!

Sounds like she either feels guilty or is a weirdo

She already came to see you once and she is still getting letters. She is probably worried that your son is registered at her address which could affect her benefits/tax situation.

Rainbow don't talk shit!

1. She's a working woman with a three bed privately owned property - so no benefits

1. How would post have any effect on her income???

Your username is very apt.

And rainbow the letters were from different people, so how was my son to know???

He gets mid delivers letter from HMRC

She bins his HR letters, so he doesn't know about those

She delivers tonight workplace pension letter and the penny drops!

So how was DS supposed to make the connection...

And your user name is very misleading!!!!!

Which I favour weirdo!!

Oh dear god, what's wrong with people?
A bit of wrongly addressed post, which clearly has just had one digit recorded wrongly, assuming that it's like 31 and not 33. A human error and people are assuming benefit fraud, income tax fraud and not just an honest mistake

Rainbow, do you generally suffer from massive paranoia?

OP, get son to sort with HR and blank neighbour in future. She's not a neighbour she's someone who lives nearby.

If I was suddenly receiving post for another adult it gets flagged by the dwp to check if I've sneakily moved someone in while claiming benefits as a single person, so it would piss me off. Ive heard of this happening to someone I know, she was dragged in for a compliance meeting because her brother used her address for something. They had to prove he lived elsewhere.

Although I would return to sender so it gets sorted, when I've passed on post there has been no incentive to get it sorted by the recipient. I wouldn't just bin it though!

To throw away the letters is a bit unreasonable of her, we get post from a road in a different estate to ours and we just write delivered to "our street". Or if I am being generous I'll take it round, I wouldn't dream of binning it!

I'm fairly certain 'blacklisting' of addresses is a thing of the past and credit ratings are individual these days. It's very odd isn't it, I get a bit of post for previous tenants and just put it back in the post. I did generously hang on to a delivery of Jewellery they'd had delivered here until they realised and showed up sheepishly at the door a week later.

Some people just don't want to put themselves out one tiny bit to help anyone, I guess she's one of those.

We know people who have had car finance, and loans taken out to their addresses which have blacklisted them from taking loans and affected their personal credit ratings as their home is now blacklisted.

Thing of the long gone past

I had a weird situation when I lived in a flat and a guy moved in above me who had a very similar surname to mine (like Thomson/Thomas, but more unusual) and I got tons of his post, probably because I was the lower floor. I just stuck it through his door and thought no more of it. He moved out, and then I started getting letters and quite unpleasant calls from debt collection agencies - I think the first three letters of the surname are what's commonly used in searches - for him. I did "not known at this address" with the letters, but spent months feeling nervous when the phone rang!

How odd!

I'd just stick "not known at this address" on it and re-post.

Very knobby to bin somebody else's post!

I would have just popped them through the letterbox with a note attached, or written 'not known at this address' if I didn't know who it was for. Job done.

It was very unhelpful of her not to just put the letters through your door so you could do something about it.

She might just be a grumpy cow, but as someone who has had bailiffs for a past occupant turn up on the doorstep, after months of their red reminders and HMRC letters, and thinking "ugh, I know where this is going", she might be concerned about the same thing happening to her. It isn't really that nice, even if you aren't the person they are after.

Likewise people are more concerned about scams etc these days - rightly or wrongly.

Although, as she knew the post was meant for you/your DS, it would have been much better to just come and see you and get it sorted! Weird really.