Moral dilemma?

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

More of a wwyd I suppose, we have some friends who we have become very close to over the months see each other a lot, they are like family I suppose a couple and their older child.
Anyway it has just come out that years ago the bloke pulled a knife on my brother who was basically a child at the time him being a few years older so an adult.

I'm really shocked and upset by it obviously as this person is always at my house and around my kids and you wouldn't think he would have been like that at all. Anyway I think I know what we have to do as I have loyalties I just wish I'd known from the start.
Also I'm not sure his partner knows it is something he's done so can't even talk to her about it. Really don't know what to do.
My partner said he won't have anything to do with him but he is gutted as it's his best friend and they work together as well, plus I don't want to lose his partner as a friend, but I feel if it had been someone he had done it to and not just because it's my brother I would still feel the same.

This is just such an awkward horrible situation how would you feel?

Can't you just make sure all meet ups are ones he can't come to for whatever reason?

Ultimately you have to protect your own family from this abusive man. If that means your relationship with her drops away, that's sad but also quite normal with women in abusive relationships. So long as she chooses appeasing an abuser over nice normal friends like you then there's no win for you.

Telling her face to face that her husband's behaviour recently and in the past mean you don't want him around your family could be a wake up call. Most likely she will cut you out though, possibly after using your opinion of him in an argument with him where she is trying to talk him out of being abusive.

Yes, to RunRabbitRunRabbit's comments.