To go round and let her know?

[Fianceechickie]

Last night our neighbour went out leaving her 16 year old to have a party. The music was loud and thumping and ruined our BBQ, there were beer bottles chucked over our fence, the smell of cannabis smoke was so strong we could smell it in our lounge (at which point I went and told the girl to cut it out and she did apologise), there was a suspicious car coming and going and the kids were coming out handing money to the driver in return for packages, there were kids hanging around on the green smoking weed and inhaling nitrous oxide from balloons and there was another car up the road a bit and they were coming out, hanging round outside it and taking pictures of the occupants. Do I go round and tell my neighbour what was happening?

A call to the police while it was happening might have been more effective.

I guess it depends what your neighbours are like. I'd want to know (although I wouldn't let a 16yo old have an unsupervised BBQ at my house anyway - did the parents know or are they away?).

Assuming she's back today I'm sure she will know. There is no way a 16year old who was partying all last night could get sorted in time.

This was exactly the same in our street a few weeks back. I knew the girl as she was in my daughters year at school, although they hadn't spoke for a while. I went and spoke to the girl and told her to keep it down. She did for about an hour but then it went back to how it was, which took the complete piss.

The lady who's house it was ended up finding out anyway so asked me if I'd heard/seen anything.. which was then when I told her. But I probably wouldn't have said anything otherwise although I know I should have.

I'd probably let her know.

I would definitely go and talk to her. Whether she takes any notice is another matter though.

Sounds awful OP.

I think I would mention it to the Mum if I knew her quite well, or if it happened more than once.

I had a similar situation yesterday where next doors 16 year old DS was smoking weed in the garden with his mates. I didn't say anything to his Dad, but I will if it happens again. I can't stand the smell the stuff.

If they were inhaling from balloons, that will be helium. You inhale nitrous oxide from the small silver canisters that are used in whipped cream dispensers.

Personally I probably wouldn't. As a PP has said, if your neighbour is back today it is highly unlikely the 16 year old will have performed miracles to hide the evidence.

You can inhale nitrous oxide from balloons too. They are popular round here!

Didn't realise that, mintich

Round here people buy "nos" canisters in bulk from amazon or eBay and sell them for a profit at parties. They are tiny so you can make a lot of money from a small hold-all full.

As a parent I'd want to know about the drugs so would probably tell them

Agree with a PP, police at the time would of been better.

You saw a bunch of teens running amok, taking part in potentially harmful and illegal activities and you didn't think to call the police?

Not sure what talking to the mum will achieve. It also depends on how well you know her and what she's like. Unless you know that she's going to do something about it what is the point?

I would have called the police given there was a drug dealer involved and a bunch of underage kids:

In fact, I would tell the mum I had called the police and let her deal with her child accordingly.

Mum is still not back. We did consider calling the police but were reluctant to sour relations with our neighbour to that extent and normally she would have come back after a few hours but she hasn't. It was clearly a party with mum's consent as she was still around as the first guests arrived. I am starting to feel that I should though when you see it in black and white. At least I don't teach her any more...I used to teach at the local comp until 3 years ago.

Actually she's just turned up and is now cleaning up the mess by herself.

If they were inhaling from balloons, that will be helium. You inhale nitrous oxide from the small silver canisters that are used in whipped cream dispensers.

Nitrous Oxide can be inhaled from balloons too. Some clubbing destinations abroad sell balloons filled with it for a couple of euros.

OP is the mum cleaning up the mess by herself?

You didn't want to sour the relationship by calling the Police?! What if the girl had overdosed or someone else at the party had? I'd much prefer if I was in this situation, the neighbour called the Police. I'd be more annoyed if I knew you saw it and did nothing to prevent it.

Ach, I wouldn't. When did you get so old op? Weren't we all teens once? No harm was done. No one was injured or hurt. Some kids were doing weed and they were noisy and messy. That's really about the size of it.

Overdosed on what? Weed?

Yes, brittbugs, that point was made and commented on some time ago.

You can't overdose on weed!

Seems to be the season for 16 year old parties, they've just finished their faces and are alerting off steam. It IS annoying but as a one off, I'd just let it go. We were all young once!

When this happened to me and I went out to find broken beer bottle glass all over our garden and patio I went round, popped a note through the door asking the daughter to come round and clear it up. She did. Her mother appeared later to apologise and a box of chocs. I don't understand why a 16 year old should not realise there are consequences. And the parent should be aware of what happened.

Weed no but Nitrous Oxide can kill you.

Yes, brittbugs, that point was made and commented on some time ago

Good. Glad you read it. I didn't. Hope your not too offended that I made the point again.