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Original poster

Wtf another cheeky one woman. What do I do?

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Passthesalt1 · 07/07/2017 17:33

I've made some hair accessories to sell at the school gates to raise money for dd class after some property was broken.

Really cheap max £2 for something ppl usually charge £10.

Very distracted with all the kids interested which is great and parents knew I'd be there and all next week.

Some parents didn't have money so took items and will pass along monies to the school office next week. That's fine.

One womans child grabs an item and then walked off, she saw and said where did you get that then just told child come on let's go and rushed away.

I didn't have time to stop her cannot find her on fb to message her. Also I didn't want to shout across all the other mums and potentially embarrass her.

It was only £2 but seriously it's for the school, I've spent ages making these items and I've used all my materials.

The woman in question doesn't like me, she looks down I think as she's quite well off and I'm not.

What do I say when I see her. She can't get away with this. Or am I being unreasonable.

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MeanAger · 07/07/2017 17:38

Could you put a message on the school Fb page or whatever reminding everyone who still owes money for accessories to forward it to the school by X date and say something like you didn't get to speak to everyone in the chaos but you know how many accessories were taken so you know who and how much is owed and invite anyone who isn't sure if they have paid to contact you and check.

Wallywobbles · 07/07/2017 17:39

Ask the School to remind her payment is due.

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Passthesalt1 · 07/07/2017 17:40

I'm scared at confronting her, what if she says I'm lying :( urgh. Why do it? Seriously.

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MeanAger · 07/07/2017 17:41

You don't have to confront her. Give the school a list of names yet to pay. Let them deal with her.

schokolade · 07/07/2017 17:45

How do you know she's not intending to pay, if lots of people are paying later?

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Passthesalt1 · 07/07/2017 17:47

This is the thing schokolade, she might well intend to pay but why not just say. I was looking straight at her. She didn't even ask if she could do that. I've written on the school page, just don't worry if you didn't pay, bring the pennies next week.

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BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 07/07/2017 17:52

I wouldn't have let anyone take one and promise to pay later. That's just making work for yourself.

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Passthesalt1 · 07/07/2017 17:53

I didn't want to be unfair.

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MeanAger · 07/07/2017 17:55

For next week, get some labels and anyone who doesn't have the cash on them tell them "no problem, I'll keep it for you" and stick their name on the band/bow/slide/whatever it is.

Goingtobeawesome · 07/07/2017 17:57

Why would you think you were unreasonable to be pissed off someone has stolen from you and the school? Why do you think you are being unfair?

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Passthesalt1 · 07/07/2017 17:58

Good idea meaner!

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Passthesalt1 · 07/07/2017 17:59

I've found her on Facebook! Should I send a polite message?

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MeanAger · 07/07/2017 18:00

I wouldn't send her anything. I would pass her name onto the school.

NoncommittalToSparkleMotion · 07/07/2017 18:00

Did anyone else see her?

AlternativeTentacle · 07/07/2017 18:02

Pass her name onto the school, as you have been advised.

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Passthesalt1 · 07/07/2017 18:02

I don't think so, the mum helping me doesn't know her.

I've just spoken to the pta head, she's lovely so well see what she says

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TheMysteriousJackelope · 07/07/2017 18:04

She hasn't stolen from you, she's stolen from the school.

It sounds like she's not very nice to you whether you have done something or not to annoy her. You might as well call her out on this and call her something rude while you're about it. At least then when she glares at you you can feel that you thoroughly earned it.

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Passthesalt1 · 07/07/2017 18:07

I don't think I've done anything to upset her, I don't want to hurt her feelings even if she doesn't like me.

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Passthesalt1 · 07/07/2017 18:08

I don't want to earn a glare.

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WombatStewForTea · 07/07/2017 18:10

Don't leave it for the school to deal with! Unless they asked you to sell these items they have nothing to do with it!

RunRabbitRunRabbit · 07/07/2017 18:10

She's a thief. She's teaching her child to be a thief. You should be the one with the glare. Practice your Paddington hard stare!

NoncommittalToSparkleMotion · 07/07/2017 18:11

She definitely doesn't care if she's hurt your feelings. At best. At worst, she's willing to steal from you.

She needs to be called out.

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Passthesalt1 · 07/07/2017 18:11

They didn't ask, I spoke to the PTA and the head and then given permission to do so. I wanted to do something for dd class to buy the equipment.

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Ilovecoleslaw · 07/07/2017 18:13

I'd send her a polite message along the lines of..
Hey thieving cow,
Just giving everyone a quick message who owes money for the accessories! Don't forget to pop the money in on Monday. So great everyone's contributing towards the school!
Have a great weekend!
Passthesalt

GlitterGlue · 07/07/2017 18:13

Post again and tag everyone who still owes money, including her.