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To ask what the eff is a 'deep feeler/empath?'
BoysofMelody · 07/07/2017 16:57
Someone I went to school with described herself on facebook as a 'deep feeler' and an 'empath'. What on earth does this mean?
It was funny as this so-called 'deep feeler' was a title-tattle obsessed gobshite, who loved inserting herself into other people's dramas and shite-stirring , whilst dressing it up a concern for the parties involved.
Am I right to think that 'empath/deep feeler' is the same behaviour wrapped up in new age guff.
Shemozzle · 07/07/2017 17:18
The self labelled empath friend of mine recently had a massive go at me about my parenting. She ironically said I wasn't empathetic enough, she knows you see, as a deep feeler. Apparently she was the only one to ever empathise with my child, ever. We don't even see her very often so that is a rather outlandish assumption. She can feel the negative energy in our house etc too. She was absolutely brutal about it too and upset me a lot. I thought that was a bit odd, for someone who is apparently good at empathising to be so bad at it.
PoorYorick · 07/07/2017 17:20
She also suffers from severe social anxiety...but is also a singer and a model.
This isn't that uncommon. Performers often feel protected under their makeup and acting persona, doing something well rehearsed. It's very different from being yourself in a social situation.
Empath is a load of cobblers though.
BertrandRussell · 07/07/2017 17:25
Whenever I hear things like this I remember a friend of ours who describes himself in new agey terms like this. Another friend once told dp that he was going travelling to find himself. Dp said "What's he looking for- a big field with an arsehole in the middle of it?" 
PoorYorick · 07/07/2017 17:35
I might just be jealous because I am honestly utterly shit at this. I am always astounded to discover someone had depression or was angry with me or whatever because they didn't seem to be acting any differently. Some people in rl think I am high functioning autistic. I don't think I am, but I guess I wouldn't know.
If I know someone's feeling bad I will try to help out and be as nice as I can, but unless it's really spelled out to me I'm likely to miss it completely.
On the plus side, it means I never get embroiled in arguments and feuds and office politics because I quite sincerely don't realise they're happening.
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