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Help me with a "Hell no!" reply, please.

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AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 06/07/2017 19:55

Seriously- someone left the gate open at Cheeky Fuckerland this week!

It's my birthday in 9 days. (Actually, it's my bday on Monday- but I'm celebrating in 9 days). I don't usually do anything, but it seems like an absolute age since we all got together, so I've organized a curry night at home. A few mates and their kids, music, etc.

I've got a whatsapp group (lazy, couldn't be arsed to send the same text 170 times😂), which the girl in question is a part of. It's been a bit of a riot on there (people suggesting silly themes, etc, all good fun). She hasn't said a word on it.

She pinged me privately and said "my five are excited about next Saturday- they love Aunty Radley's cooking", etc, etc. And then the clanger (I think)

"What time is (my DH) picking them up? It'll have to be before 3 because I've arranged to go out".

Um...HUH?

I said she must have got her wires crossed- she was invited WITH the DC, and I've askrd everyone to arrive at about 5.30-6! (This is why I mentioned the Whatsapp group btw- these details have been mentioned several times on there, with people joking that they'd be arriving by private jet 😂).

Answer: "They'll be fine coming to yours early. I'll bang their sleeping bags in the boot and DH can drop them off about 3pm on Sunday".

I haven't replied.

I don't want to be responsible for five other kids without their parent there! We have no room for them to sleep over either! My DC share a room in a two bedroomed apartment. It'll be a squeeze getting everyone in on Saturday night, but that's always part of the fun.

In a nutshell:

Am I being selfish? I want to let my hair down as much as I can that night- anyone who's read my other active thread will know it's been a stressful month, and I need it!

If IANBU, please help me craft a reply.

If IABU and completely selfish, help me somehow work out a sleepover arrangement? How practical is it to squeeze 7 kids into one roome? (DB will be sleeping over in the lounge, and he snores like a lawnmower on acid, so impossible to share a room with, much as I love him)

?????

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SparkleMotions · 11/07/2017 19:57

@boo2410 I've just re-read, I didn't realise it was 5 bloody kids she was trying to fob off onto OP, I completely missed that bit, I thought it was just 2!! I think she's even more of a cheeky fucker now!!

ItsNachoCheese · 11/07/2017 19:59

Placemarking

bmbetu · 11/07/2017 20:05

Placemarking too!

boo2410 · 11/07/2017 22:37

@ Sparkle, it's Radley that has 2 kids, she's (not Radley) one cheeky fucker with more front than Sainsbury that's for sure. Can you imagine any normal, or even semi normal person doing that? You just wouldn't would you? Can't wait til Saturday to see what unfolds.

Pretenditsaplan · 11/07/2017 23:20

Just confirm i will be live updating on saturday

paxillin · 11/07/2017 23:36

You'll have to start a new thread for your all-night party. Looking forward to the increasingly, ahem, tipsy updates Grin. Enjoy!

BunnyBardot · 12/07/2017 03:34

Looking forward to the update!

PreemptiveSalvageEngineer · 12/07/2017 08:12

Eagerly awaiting update.

Meanwhile, can anybody link the WORkzilla fred? I remember reading the start of it a few weeks back, but can't find it now and need closure. Thanks.

Coffeetasteslikeshit · 12/07/2017 10:41

Coffee was the beach day a different day? (as you say he is at yours today)

yes, last week.

Where did he go? Or did you cancel the beach?

I think he probably went and knocked on the door of the next person on the list, this wasn't the first time this had happened, I was just shocked that his mum would tell him to go to mine without checking first. If she had, I would have arranged the car situation so he could come.

And yes, I feel bad for leaving him.

Redsippycup · 12/07/2017 14:27

Oh God the poor little boy! Wandering round trying to find someone to look after him Sad

I'm sure you did feel bad, but it's not your fault at all!

I can't quite get my head around thinking your child is old enough to walk from house to house when no one knows where he is or is expecting him, but you don't think they are old enough to be home alone?!

Cagliostro · 12/07/2017 17:33

Aw poor boy :( but it's better to say no in the long term, it's not fair for her to fob him off on people and she relies on sympathy to stop people saying no

SparkleMotions · 12/07/2017 18:03

@boo2410 I can't imagine anyone doing that, she's mental! Ah I can't wait either, I'm waiting to see what happens with WORKzilla next week too ( if you've not read that thread, it's another cheeky fucker thread) 😂

CalmItKermitt · 12/07/2017 20:59

😁

boo2410 · 12/07/2017 21:13

@Sparkle, I'd love to read the workzilla thread but I need to start at the beginning. I'm not too good at the search thing. Can you give me a link to the first thread please 😀.

SparkleMotions · 13/07/2017 01:34

@boo2410

Friends expecting me to look after kids, 6 week holidays.
http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/2969962-Friends-expecting-me-to-look-after-kids-6-week-holidays

Enjoy 😊

boo2410 · 13/07/2017 07:24

*@Sparkle,*thanks for that, it'll while away a few hours 😄

PringlesInTheFlySpace · 13/07/2017 09:38

Just RTFT and all I can say is Shock.

HipsterHunter · 13/07/2017 09:42

sooooooo how did the part go?

paxillin · 13/07/2017 09:45

It hasn't happened yet.

dudsville · 13/07/2017 09:54

I've been holed up in a private loo at work reading this! Afraid I only had time for op's posts but I'm marking my place for the outcome.

Girty999 · 13/07/2017 09:55

Dear Cheeky Monkey
It's my birthday and I'm going to have a bit to drink, feel free to drop your kids off but there is a high chance I'll make them a special cocktail of prossecco with a calpol chaser then dump them under the coats on the bed and forget they are there, up to you xx

Lukeandlorelai4Ever · 13/07/2017 11:21

Place marking for update Halo

Groovester · 13/07/2017 12:09

This thread is amazing. Some folk eh? Mental!

rainbowduck · 13/07/2017 13:46

Two more sleeps!!!