Help me with a "Hell no!" reply, please.

[AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley]

Seriously- someone left the gate open at Cheeky Fuckerland this week!

It's my birthday in 9 days. (Actually, it's my bday on Monday- but I'm celebrating in 9 days). I don't usually do anything, but it seems like an absolute age since we all got together, so I've organized a curry night at home. A few mates and their kids, music, etc.

I've got a whatsapp group (lazy, couldn't be arsed to send the same text 170 times😂), which the girl in question is a part of. It's been a bit of a riot on there (people suggesting silly themes, etc, all good fun). She hasn't said a word on it.

She pinged me privately and said "my five are excited about next Saturday- they love Aunty Radley's cooking", etc, etc. And then the clanger (I think)

"What time is (my DH) picking them up? It'll have to be before 3 because I've arranged to go out".

Um...HUH?

I said she must have got her wires crossed- she was invited WITH the DC, and I've askrd everyone to arrive at about 5.30-6! (This is why I mentioned the Whatsapp group btw- these details have been mentioned several times on there, with people joking that they'd be arriving by private jet 😂).

Answer: "They'll be fine coming to yours early. I'll bang their sleeping bags in the boot and DH can drop them off about 3pm on Sunday".

I haven't replied.

I don't want to be responsible for five other kids without their parent there! We have no room for them to sleep over either! My DC share a room in a two bedroomed apartment. It'll be a squeeze getting everyone in on Saturday night, but that's always part of the fun.

In a nutshell:

Am I being selfish? I want to let my hair down as much as I can that night- anyone who's read my other active thread will know it's been a stressful month, and I need it!

If IANBU, please help me craft a reply.

If IABU and completely selfish, help me somehow work out a sleepover arrangement? How practical is it to squeeze 7 kids into one roome? (DB will be sleeping over in the lounge, and he snores like a lawnmower on acid, so impossible to share a room with, much as I love him)

?????

Think some people really are from a different planet. Bizarre!

Crickey. Did she reply OP? Or did you block her? I can't believe she tried to guilt trip you!

Jesus, get shot of this weirdo op! No one needs that kind of shit in their life. I'm impressed with how calmly you've handled this. I'd have told her to go fuck herself after the first message

You have got to add those texts to the whatssapp group, you know she'll be messaging other saying how you said the kids could come to the party and now you say they can't.
Definitly WORKzilla's apprentice.

That is absolutely mad! Definitely pop a quick message on WhatsApp:

I thought it was pretty clear, but some folks seem to have got the wrong end of the stick so I thought I should clarify! I intend on being three sheets to the wind by 7pm latest, so whilst you're all very welcome to bring and supervise your own kids, I will not be providing babysitting services for any unaccompanied waifs and strays! 5:30pm earliest arrival, kick out for all at midnight. Looking forward to seeing you all, Radley

Actually incredible! Can't believe anyone could be that cheeky! Ps, your replies were bloody amazing!

It's my birthday on Monday too OP, cake for us!! 🎉🎉🎉

Anyway, with regard to the actual thread subject, WHAT????? I'm actually kind of jealous of all the "zilla" friend posters recently that I don't know anyone in RL with this level of brassneck piss-takery!

ponders: hmm maybe if I wasn't so "selectively social" and had more than 5 friends I'd get to meet some real life crazies!!

I've had to share it with the whatsapp group.

I was trying to avoid it- it feels like shit stirring! But she's texted another one of my friends asking who they're going to be using as a sitter! (Other friend's child is invited too, but she wants a drink, etc, so she's got a sitter). I've learned from OF that HNF (Hell No Friend) is now putting up PA crap all over fbk (don't give a blue fuck about that- she can say what she likes).

So I've set the record straight.

It's the kids I'll miss more than anything. 😐

Awesome. Love these people, they are put on this earth purely to entertain mumsnetters.

I really don't believe for one moment that her kids are crying. She may well be doing so, however, at the realisation that her night out isn't going to happen.

Is she a lone parent with little support? I am but I still wouldn't be that cheeky. I don't blame you for terminating the friendship. She was guilt tripping you and shouldn't have told her kids a thing until she'd agreed it with you.

If she was going to this other event all along, where were her kids going before to be looked after? I think she agreed to that invite once she thought she had a babysitter and is more pissed at you scuppering her plans.

Do you think she'll ask OF if her kids can share a babysitter? It would not surprise me in the slightest if she does!

Another cheeky fucker thread,that's my weekend sorted.Im glad you've put the messages on the group chat,cause she's trying to get some poor other sap to take them.

What passive aggressive stuff if she putting up?

is, not if

Oh, and yes, it looks like she was planning a fuckfest.

I'll send her a rabbit as a goodbye gift

The cheeky pisstaker!

Glad you've made it clear it's not happening. She doesn't sound like much of a friend, so possibly well rid permanently!

What is wrong with these people?

In what universe would you look at a invite to your mate's party and think "I know! It's an adult birthday party but what she would love more than anything, is if I dumped my kids on her for a sleepover! What a GREAT idea for a present - she'll love it!".

I mean WTF?

Blimey.

Said it before and I'll say it again. People are odd. There are some odd fuckers around.

What are the responses on the what's app group ?

This is the sort of thread dreams are made of.

"You know who your true friends are when (sic) your truly in need"

And some bollocks about having five years of tiger stripes, but being a withering sparrow inside!

Yes, she is a LP. To put it into xcontext, she has her parents around the corner from her, so does get some support.

I don't think you need a "clarifying" message to the group - cf has left and no one who is left would have had a similar misunderstanding.

If you must say something to the group then be direct about it.

"Shockingly, (cf) has left the group in a huff because I declined to combine my birthday bash with babysitting her 5 kids for a sleepover while she went off to do something other than coming to the party. Still reeling from the shock at the cheek of trying to force that on me on the day of my birthday party but just wanted to let you guys know why she and I aren't so much buddies any more. Really looking forward to partying with the rest of you."

I'd be so tempted to post "I know - I absolutely know who my friends are too. Ones who don't try and dump their kids on me as a free baby sitting service"