Charity donation instead of preschool leaving gifts

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Quick background, we go to a very naice private preschool part time up north. It's lovely, we are very privileged to have it, and be able to afford it!

Our only child starts full time school in September, and we will be at least 1k richer a month. This 1k will go to savings, or be spent on stuff.

I was thinking instead of the usual thank you teacher gifts, we get a case of wine and donate what would of been the September terms fees to a children's charity in their honour.

I would like to chose a charity that encourages pen pals etc, from a selfish point of view, as I would love my DS to do something like this! And if the preschool wanted to, they could get involved.

Is this a ridiculous idea?

And if not any ideas on what charities?

*suggestions

I would maybe just donate stuff like toys, craft materials etc that the preschool might need?

I am not seeing what your charity donation has to do with your DC's preschool teachers.

the teacher gets paid why do you have to give a gift- I am sure they are paid very well

It's a ridiculous idea, makes no sense. Just donate privately to a charity, as it in no way shows recognition to nursery staff.

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I agree with you that it's a really nice gesture.

I'm not sure why your donation has to be made on behalf of the school though (if this is what you mean). Would it be better if it's made by you and your family privately, as previous posters suggested?

Ok, so lesson learnt.

I will give thank you cards and wine, and do the donation separately.

Known or unknown to the people who know me, I would very much like to make the donation.

Preschool workers are not usually paid very well! Maybe the teacher if there's a qualified one in the room but it's often quite low pay given what responsibility it is!

Why did you mention that it was in the North?

Nice of you but I'd keep the two ideas separate. Give them presents! Nice ones! (we always gave cash in pretty cards)

It's a lovely idea, if it has some connection to the school values or to the teachers themselves. If it is nothing to do with the school it doesn't make that much sense. I'm not quite sure why you are getting so many negative comments to be honest. Teachers are not in it for the presents generally so I don't think many would think 'god what a shit present, I wish they had got me some luxury hand cream' etc. I'm guessing (assuming) you are thinking along the lines of a charity supporting less fortunate children, rather than along the lines of, say, a wildlife charity.

I used to buy books and stuff for schools in third world countries instead of getting into the competitive end of year gift giving.

In a prep school.

In the North.

It's a terrible idea

give to charity if you want, but that's not a gift for the preschool.

You don't have to give a gift at all, a heartfelt thankyou note listing staff members names would do

One of the teachers at my kids school always asks that parents donate to cancer research rather than give her end of year presents. Her Dad died of cancer and she regularly raises funds through marathons etc.

That's a set of circumstances where charitable giving is appropriate as a gift.
Your idea - as noble as it is - should be about you and your family not about the school. And involving you kid as a pen pal is something you can encourage at home.

Ok a couple if pps have asked why I wanted to make a donation on behalf of the school/staff.

It's because I am really grateful that they provide such a diligent and amazing childcare setting, and I appreciate everything they have done for my child and our family.

However not all children get this amazing start in life, so in honour of their amazing work, here is x donation to x charity,

In my mind that's how it plays out any way!

But I know when I am wrong!

Thanks fir the relies, wine and chocolates it is, and a private donation.

Still looking for good pen pal suggestions through 😁 X

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Why did you mention that it was in the North?

Because the OP has done very well for herself to afford private school and be able to have an extra grand a month, when the norm for the area is to be living off lard butties for every meal.

Well no, the up north bit was when the sourtherners questioned why I thought 1k was a lot per month for part time nursery fees. I know this crops up on MN a lot.

Any normal person knows it cost nearly double down south, for childcare.

I am not doing well for myself, but now I don't have to pay childcare, my outgoings have more than halved.

It's not that complicated..

Also, dripping butties are a staple in my diet. Do t be so prejudiced 🙈

You mentioned up North in your opening post.

Yes I did, and provided a perfectly reasonable explanation as to why.

Then I carried on your joke about lard sarnies.

I will admit where I am wrong, like I have done upthread, but I won't apologise for my sense if humour.

Especially when that humour is directed at someone who is trying to find any kind of technical fault in my replies.

If your looking for a troll, perhaps look under the bridge your currently sat.

Sorry was you joke, but you get the sentiment

Wasn't*