AIBU to move into a bloody tent for the summer hols so Dp can get help for his snoring?

[SongforSal]

I am at my wits end.

Dp shares lifts to work with another man each morning. This morning, the poor man turned up to my house and pleasantly said good morning, and asked how I was. I immediately bust into tears. The reason being, I have been awake since around 3am because of Dp's snoring.

It has got progressively worse regardless of what position he is sleeping in. He makes all sorts of sounds from both his nose and mouth, and often splutters making it sound like he is choking. He is point blank refusing to go to the GP. I can not live like this anymore!

I have just had a sleep deprived brainwave to pack the tent, and go stay in the field next to Dm's house for the summer hols. At least for a couple of weeks, to drill home if anything the effect it is having on us. He often wakes eldest up at night to and we are all suffering. Yes I know it is not his fault, but equally I think he is being a selfish sod for not taking this seriously. It actually sounds like something is wrong with him.

I actually think taking the Dc's for a couple of weeks would kick start him into getting help. I know he would be lonely with us not here, but I honestly dread going to bed each night. Sometimes I sleep on the sofa, and get woken by his snoring two floors above me! The neighbours have heard him to!!

I had a similar problem with my partner. We were both constantly exhausted and irritable. Our concentration was terrible at work and we had no motivation to do anything.

It got to the point where I'd had enough. And moved him to the spare room. Although this didn't help, it was still loud enough to disturb my sleep.

I sat him down told him I'm miserable, he's miserable and told him of the health implications of constant poor sleep, such as heart disease, high blood pressure, erectile dysfunction, obesity. Plus higher risk of car accidents due to poor concentration, could be responsible for causing his or someone else's death if feel asleep driving. I made it clear that although I love him it would ruin our relationship if he didn't get help.

He went to the doctors, they referred him to a sleep clinic, he was diagnosed with sleep apnea and now has a cpap machine and wears a mask to sleep.

It is heaven, no more snoring and the machine is silent. We both feel like we a heavy fog has lifted. I also think he was s quite ashamed of not seeking help sooner.

Also forgot to add my partner isn't overweight, although he has broad shoulders and big neck , think rugby player build. He has had several broken noses and suffers terribly with hay fever from march to October.

It's not just overweight people that suffer. They aren't likely to suggest surgery if that's what he is afraid of, they will try cheaper less invasive treatments.

Just a question about sleep apnoea if that's ok to hijack a little? I was feeding the baby last night and watched DH sleeping.

He went through phases of his chest moving up and down but no audible or noticeable breathing (as in not feeling air moving), then he would snore getting progressively louder until the sound stopped and he went back to chest moving but no sound.

Does that sound like sleep apnoea or is he just breathing heavier and lighter at times?

My DH's snoring got to the point where I was so tired. His was caused by an under active thyroid. Now completely gone. He needs a GP and meanwhile put him in the tent

you need to hand the tent to dh to sleep in until he sees a dr.