To expect more from fellow mums
MissKST · 03/07/2017 15:46
So today me and my DD3 were In a shop, well mothercare, and she has hypermobility syndrome, she cannot walk far distances and gets tired very easily as her condition affects her joints, so she still uses a pushchair for shopping,nursery runs etc. Today I was going round a corner in a shop and didn't see a pram that was at the end of the other rail, so I pulled my DD back and said to the other lady with her DS 'oh sorry it's okay you go first' she walked off saying that she 'f***g hates people who lets toddlers be lazy and pushed around' I was absolutely morfied. I said to the 'woman' she actually has a condition that makes her need help now and again but well done on being so judgemental I walked off feeling really unhappy, DD's dad however is now saying I overreacted and embarrassed him WIBU?
BenLui · 03/07/2017 15:54
I once was told off by a stranger in a shop for allowing my DS to use a buggy as he was clearly too old for it.
I said "How old do you think he is?"
"He's only just two years old, he's just tall like his Dad"
"Well I wasn't to know that was I?"
She turned on her heel and walked off without another word.
Some people are weird.
thecatsarecrazy · 03/07/2017 15:57
People are arseholes op. My ds 5 months wears hearing aids. Its water off a ducks back to me because I've been through it all before with my eldest ds. You wouldn't believe how people stare. Not the odd glance, not a smile, serious stares. For a moment I forgot then I think oh yes his hearing aids. I'm waiting for the "he's not deaf is he?" Comments like I got last time
FormerlyFrikadela01 · 03/07/2017 16:05
thecatsarecrazy nothing surprises me anymore. I witnessed 2 women muttering to each other about a clearly severely disabled boy on the bus making loads of noise. I was sat next to his dad who just smiled and said watch this and gave a book to his mum who started reading to him... Cue even louder delighted shrieks much to the disgust of the 2 women.
LDN17 · 03/07/2017 16:10
Some people are so god damn rude. So what if a toddler is in a pushchair? They aren't exactly super walkers at that age any way are they. My 2 and a half year old still uses his pushchair and he is really long- I haven't noticed but I bet I've had some dodgy looks from people who think he's too old.
BenLui, exactly! People don't know how old strangers' children are so they should mind their own business! The woman you encountered proved that when she said she "wasn't to know". Silly woman!
cjt110 · 03/07/2017 16:10
My son is almost 3. We are just about ready to get rid of the buggy. We haven't used it in months but it is handy for my Mum as she doesnt drive and sometimes when she has DS, she has a few places in town to visit - too much for little legs.
He is already 3ft3. I had him in the pram the other week and he looked like a fucking giant.
BlurryFace · 03/07/2017 16:19
What an ignorant woman. Plenty of non - disabled 3yos go in buggies/on buggy boards anyway, particularly if they are going for a long journey in foot.
My 2yo DS is awaiting assessment due to potential learning delays/unusual behaviour and I can't make journeys with him out the buggy that I used to make with DS1 at the same age as he dangles on reins and pulls his hand out my grasp, even biting my hand hard enough to bruise trying to make me let go of him. If he's still like this next year, am I supposed to let him run into the road rather than use a buggy?
MissKST · 03/07/2017 16:25
Yes I could have probably picked a better thread name, apologies, I just can't believe someone would actually say comments like that about a child. Didn't ruin our day we had a fabulous shopping trip and DD bought more shopkins. DD's Dad and myself are no longer together, we however had been for hospital appointment beforehand and always go together. Things like this remind me why he's an Ex partner and not darling partner
MistressDeeCee · 03/07/2017 16:26
Well done for standing up for yourself and your DD, and putting an ignorant fool in her place. DDs dad sounds like one of those who can't deal with thought of any (necessary)confrontation. So won't back you up but will somehow feel free to lecture you on what you should have done....
Coddiwomple · 03/07/2017 16:34
You shouldn't even feel you need to justify anything.
It's not an issue for people to drive their kids to school to save them from a 5 or 10 minutes walk, but a pushchair is not acceptable? Let's start judging the lazy ones in their car before even thinking about the buggies, shall we!
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