To ask would you judge this?

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I'll start off by saying I don't.

Ds (4) likes all things pink/barbie/MLP etc. This doesn't bother me at all.
I've bought him a "trolls" school bag which is pink.
He has already had some comments about being too girly as it is & is sensitive so am I making it worse by letting him have this bag?
Some parents have made passing comments too which really piss me off

I would be judgmental of the pass remarkable parents. Not of you or your ds.

Other children can be cruel so I wouldn't have bought a pink bag for a boy to use at school. At home yes if they picked it.

Nope, there's a little boy in DS'S class that has a lovely bright pink MLP bag, I think it's ace

Same as rainbow

It's absolutely fine. Let him choose what he wants.
We are v good at telling girls they can be anything they want to be and wear whatever they like, I feel like boys are being left behind (I have 3 boys)

We all judge.

I'd praise you for being so laid back.

I was in smith's toys the other week and a little boy ran down the Barbie/doll/pink isle, so excited. His dad came along, physically picked him up and said "you don't want to be down here son" and walked off with him. I judged him too.

Nope, I judge but not this. I think parents who don't suppress their kids genuine desires and feelings are brilliant. People who do 'oh you don't want that it's for boys/girls' are douchebags:

Thank you all, I wasn't sure if I'm being like @RainbowsAndUnicorn said and admit I've been thinking maybe just for home but he doesn't understand really so don't see why he should have 2 different ones

Wouldn't even notice.

I wouldn't judge at all as a parent, but would if possible offer DS a more boyish alternative to make his life easier. If he insists then I would just leave him use whatever backpack he likes and who cares if some people are stupid.

I was miffed when ds (3yo) went to choose a flowery garden windmill toy and FIL said 'not that one it's for girls' and picked up a blue one for him.

He sounds happy and content. You sound brilliant.

The only time I would be is if I saw a parent forcing the opposite gender stereotypes on their child in a bid to seem trendy (e.g. here's my 9 month baby boy wearing pink bows because I don't believe in gender).

I don't think I would even notice, he's 4!

The sad reality is that other children probably will comment or tease him about his choices. Is he confident enough to deal with this? If yes, then go for it but if he's more sensitive I would buy a plain school bag/ clothes in the same way that many adults have work clothes and wear whatever he wants at home.

Please keep doing stuff like this. The world would be a better place if more people did.

DS once went to nursery wearing pink spotty sunglasses. He looked awesome. He was immediately told 'they're girls' glasses' and his whole body crumpled. Two years later, he won't wear pink as "it's a girl colour". That did not come from me! I wish it stopped everywhere.

I am going to against the grain a little bit.I would have no issue with the bag as such. Nor with him playing with dolls etc...

However, I've had two dcs who, for different reasons, did stick out. Making them sticking out even ore wouldn't have helped them at all iyswim.
Ive had a very shy/sensitive boy and one that is (and has always being) 'nerdy'. The best I ever did was to take them to football so they could fit in on the playground.
Very sad IMO but I also know they would just have been on the sides of the playground most of the time (two primary too and both with a similar attitude).

Because of that, I would say that I would want to be very careful about the attitude in that school and how it's going to be handled. The fact you are already getting comments doesn't bode well ime. I would be careful and maybe gently direct him towards keeping his interest at home.

When my son was little he loved the TV series Rugrats and had a 'doll' called Cynthia like a character in the show. He grew out of it. I don`t remember any comments from judgy parents.

No I'd try and find my son a similar bag aimed at boys.
i wouldn't judge as such. Maybe in my head I'd think why, but not out loud.

Instead of judging the choices, I think support the choices and encourage your boy to be strong about it.

The other children who pick on people for not conforming are WRONG. THEY should be the ones changing behaviour not the boys having trolls bags. Seriously.

No I wouldn't!

Bloody idiots for judging, why shouldn't a 4 year old like pink ?

Some parents are utter twats and slaves to the whole pink/blue BS. They often have kids who fall into line with their beliefs.

My concern would be your son feeling self conscious or judged or being picked on.

If he is confident and happy ignore the stupid people and be happy you have a kid who can see further than blue is for boys.

You would need a VERY confident 4yo to be able to stand up in a way that most adults don't IMO.

It's tough, because your DS may be uncomfy in the end. Bag shopping this morning, 13yo DS gave a big cuddle to a "cat" backpack. Not girlie or babyish or twee at all. He wouldn't choose it even though he liked it. Total boy blue color but not to be seen with. I wish DS had more self-confidence to like what he likes.