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To think my friend was a beep or am I overreacting?

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Whitlandcarm · 01/07/2017 18:50

My partner and I were going out one evening and had booked a hotel etc. We didn't fancy going out in the city together as a couple so asked around and found that my friend would be in town. I turned down politely offers of going out with other people as thought it would be nice to go out with her as I hadn't seen her since I travelled 4hrs for her birthday a few months back.

I had agreed with that friend that we'd all meet for drinks then go out afterwards together. Sure sure, all good and agreed even on the very day saying how excited she was to meet up.

Partner and I send her a text asking when would she and her friend (who I've met) would like to come for a drink. Or we could join their plans. Read, and no reply, despite posting all evening including on a whatsapp group we're both in.

This left DH and I to go alone out which of course was fine, but I was just pissed off that she would do that. We wanted a nice relaxing night out with friends.

This friend was meant to be coming to stay in a holiday home (UK) that we're renting for a night or so. She's muffed that one.

How shall I go about this?
I feel like that I value her more than she values me if you get me?

Sorry needed to rant Sad

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emmyrose2000 · 02/07/2017 05:05

I had agreed with that friend that we'd all meet for drinks then go out afterwards together. Sure sure, all good and agreed even on the very day saying how excited she was to meet up

Partner and I send her a text asking when would she and her friend (who I've met) would like to come for a drink. Or we could join their plans. Read, and no reply, despite posting all evening including on a whatsapp group we're both in

Ignoring the ins and outs of whether couples should meet up with friends whilst they're out on a weekend away, the friend is just plain rude for not getting back to you if plans had changed.

It sounds like you had plans to meet up, and then she just ditched you. If she didn't want to meet up after all, then she could've made up a polite lie to get out of it. To just leave you hanging is absolutely not on.

This would piss me off no end, and I wouldn't be in any hurry to continue the relationship, unless she came back with a huge groveling apology, or proof that she had had some hugely unforeseen emergency.

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