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To not tell my workplace what operation im having

57 replies

Vanillamanilla1 · 01/07/2017 16:26

It's quite well known amongst the staff what procedure im having , however , when it comes to actually having the surgery and giving a sick note I'll ask the gp to write " Post operative recovery "
The procedure is a planned one but I'm worried itlk be classed as cosmetic
Ive been with the company for many years 10+ years and I know that if they can get out of paying me sick pay them they will
Can I just have on my sicknnote " post operative recovery " witgout actually telling them what the operation is
To be honest it's personal ( even tho I have told many ) and don't want the higher bosses knowing

OP posts:
RelaxMax · 01/07/2017 16:28

Yes that's fine, I've been signed off for a month before with a note that said "Surgery" and nothing else.

RockyTop · 01/07/2017 16:31

I had an op a few weeks ago. The surgeon just signed and dated the form which said I needed two weeks off, he left the details for me to fill in.

TidyDancer · 01/07/2017 16:34

YANBU but it probably wasn't sensible to tell the other staff if you wanted to keep it from bosses.

I suppose it does also depend on whether it is cosmetic or medically required (I'm thinking along the lines of rhinoplasty). If it is cosmetic and they find this out later then it might cause you some trouble. I would personally be examining the sick pay policy in minute detail if I were you.

OliviaBenson · 01/07/2017 16:36

Our sick policy wouldn't allow paid sick pay for a non medical cosmetic procedure so you should check it.

GahBuggerit · 01/07/2017 16:44

A fit note is a fit note and they would be silly to withhold any contractual sick pay due to an elective procedure.

It's your pregorative of course but if it's something that work may need to know about so they don't give you certain tasks or if you can't do certain things then your work can't support you and ensure your safety.

I've had this a few times and in the nicest possible way, people's boob jobs, mole removals, facelifts, ingrown toenail removals and Bartholin's cyst treatments and so on are really not as interesting to managers and hr as people think :)

Bumdishcloths · 01/07/2017 16:47

Don't really understand why you've told 'many' but expect the bosses not to find out Hmm

lougle · 01/07/2017 16:50

Is it cosmetic?

Clalpolly · 01/07/2017 16:51

If it is elective surgery, you don't get sick leave at our place (civil service).
You can lie but you would then get into disciplinary proceedings.

SpuriouserAndSpuriouser · 01/07/2017 16:53

Boob reduction?

I think it's fairly standard to just put something along the lines of "post op recovery", I'm sure it'll be fine.

StatisticallyChallenged · 01/07/2017 16:53

I'm going to guess breast reduction?

If it is it's a tricky one as it can be purely cosmetic, or done for health reasons

StripeyDeckchair · 01/07/2017 16:54

If it's well known among staff what the operation is, trust me it will be well known amongst the managers too.

There's only one way to keep something private and that is to tell nobody.

lougle · 01/07/2017 16:54

Elective doesn't necessarily mean unnecessary, though. It just means planned and not emergency. It can still be every bit as important as the procedure that is carried out as an emergency, it has just been done at a time which is considered best for the patient.

Maudlinmaud · 01/07/2017 16:55

If it's cosmetic they might notice when you come back. I think recover sounds fine though.

Clalpolly · 01/07/2017 16:56

Alright, cosmetic surgery rather than elective surgery.

pringlecat · 01/07/2017 16:56

If you've told that many people, the bosses will already know. Companies are terrible for gossip.

Is it actually cosmetic, or do you just worry it will be seen as cosmetic? As has been mentioned already, something like a breast reduction can have a positive impact on the quality of your life, regardless of what some people may think.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 01/07/2017 16:59

clalpolly I work in the civil service and had bariatric surgery - I was entitled to sick leave. Not sure why you wouldn't be.

user1498921160 · 01/07/2017 16:59

I had a hysterectomy a few years ago. At no stage was the nature of my operation written on any of my medical certs and I was never asked by management what operation I was having.

MineKraftCheese · 01/07/2017 17:06

I got pretty pissed off at my previous job as a colleague got loads of time "off sick" for laser eye surgery appointments and recovery, which he should have taken as holiday.

His manager was crap, lazy and let people take the piss.

Surely either your company allows time off for the procedure you are getting or they don't? You surely can't lie about it if asked.

If it's necessary then I don't see how there can be a problem though.

SealSong · 01/07/2017 17:09

Hip replacement
Prolapse repair
Cleft palate repair
Spinal disc surgery....
these are all 'elective surgeries' i.e. planned - but medically necessary - surgeries, as opposed to emergency surgery.
Clalpolly, do you mean that people employed in your job would not get sick pay for those?

Gemini69 · 01/07/2017 17:10

you should have told nobody x

AndTakeYourHorseWithYou · 01/07/2017 17:13

She clearly said cosmetic surgery not elective.

kimlo · 01/07/2017 17:16

my elective and not strictly necessary but needed surgery just had surgical procedure on the sick note. Work did know what I was having, but they wouldn't have had to.

LowGravity · 01/07/2017 17:16

I had an op a few weeks ago and the hospital just gave me one saying post op recovery 2 weeks. No other info. I had told my employers what the op was though but don't think you have to.

Clalpolly · 01/07/2017 17:24

You would not get sick leave for a cosmetic nose job but obviously would for hip replacement.

SealSong · 01/07/2017 17:27

That's good to hear - DH has recently just got a job in the civil service! Just wanted to clarify