To put my DS in girls pj's??

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Hey guys!

Me again, I'm the poster who asked about a dress and received a unanimous NO! So I decided NOT to put my kid in one!

However, he has very suddenly grown out of his 0-3m clothes but I haven't got the next size up solely because he seemed to have room to grow, had a growth spurt & is now too big!

However, I've posted on selling sites asking for babygrows & have bed offered a few of them, however they are VERY girly.....my reasoning to do it?? Because they are free, he's a baby & wont understand & wont particularly care.

Unfortunately my DS's DF doesn't currently contribute (I am in the process of getting this sorted) & I had to foot every last cost for all the things my DS would need at the start & gave got into a bit of debt!

So anything free will hugely help!

So, after that long read.....AIBU to put my DS in free girls babygrows??

If you don't want people to pass comment based on the previous thread, don't mention it in this one?

And I'll say what I said before: if you're hellbent on putting your child in whatever, just do it and stop asking if YABU then saying YANBU

You brought the last thread into this thread OP.. THere is no MN etiquette rules to follow.. The thread is relevant to this thread which is why you mentioned it.

I agree with the posters that alone the babygro's would be a none issue.. However Due to the dress it is likely there is more to this.

Also if it is such a none Issue I am not sure why you are asking?

I am afraid for me you seem to me to be someone who doesn't like gender so going to use your DS as an example of how to fight it..

That's a big enough logical jump for the cow to go over the moon!

Who's getting all upset here, us or you??

he was a very male-looking baby

Sideboards and tache?

I think the issue before was you seemed to want to spend money on dresses so that others would think your DS was a girl. Here you are asking if is it ok to wear a range of patterns of babygros because they will save you money. I think that's is different. Babygros are practical whatever the material and would be stupid not to accept free ones. Buying (impractical) dreses for a baby boy so people will think he's a girl is totally different.

If you're the poster I think you are, you wanted to put your DS in a dress because you wanted to. It was all about you and making a statement, and that's why you weren't being reasonable.

Putting your DS in some girly sleeping clothes that no one is ever going to see (you're not going to photograph this are you?) at an age where your DS won't have an opinion to save a bit of cash is not the same thing.

If a child wants to wear something publicly that doesn't fit a gender norm, fine. If you force a child to wear something publicly that doesn't fit a gender norm, you're using the child to push your own agenda and that's wrong. If described accurately, this is a different scenario.

Same rules apply for clothes

But that's bollocks though! Yes it's right for toys but not true for clothes. Putting a baby boy in a dress is a statement by the parent. And that is different to an older child actually asking for a particular item.

My ds uses his sister's old pjs and gro bags. He used to proudly sport his sister's pink wellies when he was younger.

He's two now and his penis hasn't dropped off or anything.

As long as he's warm, dry and well fed he won't care.