To not go to baby shower, making MIL not able to go?

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SIL's baby shower next week. MIL doesn't drive and FIL's car has broke so can't take her.
Arrangement was she was going to come in the car with me (takes at least an hour)
But, i had a misscariage last week and the last think I want is to be around baby stuff right now.
MIL still wants me to go so she can and FIL thinks I am BU by not going.
AIBU??

YANBU. Not at all.
In fact she is BVU to be pushing you to go.
There are plenty of options for them to get her there. Car hire, public transport etc.
It's absolutely understandable that you don't feel up to going. In your circumstances many people wouldn't.

I'm so sorry for your loss

Do not feel/be pressured into going. Now is the time for you to take care of you!

MIL is an adult and you are not responsible for her. If you are in the UK, I highly doubt that there isn't since form of public transport that she can use.
I'm so sorry for your loss OP. You definitely need to focus on taking care of yourself. Don't let anybody put pressure on you. Stay strong x

YANBU

Just wanted to say that I'm sorry for your loss. I can completely and utterly understand why you wouldn't want to go. I had a MMC in February and avoided a family birthday party this month because I couldn't face them asking when we would be having children. It's all I've been asked since the moment we married 8 yrs ago. I didn't want to go so badly that in fact we booked a week in Menorca as the excuse. My lovely mum and dad covered for us. Your in-laws should be supporting you. Please remind them of that. I hope you can say no and have them hear it. X

Why doesn't BIL go and pick her up the night before?

Or your DH could drop her off the night before and BIL bring her home?

Surely no one with a shred of empathy would expect you to go?

Perhaps bil could pick up mil. You do not have to answer the question more than once. No is no.

YANBU OP. It's unfortunate for your MIL but absolutely not your responsibility to solve.

Sorry for your loss

YANBU

Sorry for your loss

No you don't have to go to the baby shower, of course not.

Do you definitely need to go out that day? Or could she get the train one way and DH take her the other way?

for you op.

YANBU. As others have said, MIL should be asking her son to collect her, or using public transport. They certainly shouldn't expect you to go!