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AIBU to refuse to read certain books to my DD?

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ElleDubloo · 29/06/2017 16:52

DD (aged almost 3) wants me to read Frozen (the book of the film) multiple times every day, and also to sing the Frozen Fever book to the tune of Let It Go (it's horrendous). I've done this patiently for several weeks now. But I'm being driven crazy and starting to lose my self-respect. AIBU to just say no? Or am I being a bad parent, as parenting toddlers is largely about doing boring things to make DC happy...?

There are a few other really badly written books that she loves. AIBU to subtly get rid of them and repopulate the bookshelves with more wholesome classics?

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BaronessBomburst · 29/06/2017 17:58

I used to rename the books to make DH laugh. DS overheard on one occasion and started telling everyone that his favourite story was 'Noddy Goes Dogging'. Grin

DimsieMaitland · 29/06/2017 18:14

We had an informal rule at that age: bedtime reading was one old favourite (only one. I bloody hated Postman Pat's Rainy Day and that lasted for about 6 months as favourite), one other book we know (but a different one every day) and one new book (usually from the library.)

It stopped me from going insane. By the time we got to DD2 I was a bit more chilled although there was a time I could recite every single Charlie and Lola book from memory (I was very good at the voices.)

honeylulu · 29/06/2017 18:25

I hide lose books I am sick of too. Both mine loved ones with jigsaw pieces. OMFG they are so annoying and take so long and bits get lost and the little buggers darlings would wail that the picture wasn't finished.
I'd no sooner manage to dispose of one of them, then some cunt relative would buy another !!
Also totally sick of Peppa Pig books. Must have moaned rather unsubtly because the other day my youngest asked for "Peppa Bloody Pig, please". Oops.

UnaPalomaBlanca · 29/06/2017 18:27

It's a developmental stage they go through- they love the repetition and the predictability. As well as helping their language development it makes them feel secure.
I had to read the cheat guide to an Xbox Lego Star Wars game for months and months and months. And months.

Dibbles1967 · 29/06/2017 18:27

Indulge her - they love repetition!

Record yourself reading it, then when she's listened to it a few times ask her "Shall I put the tape on or shall mummy read to you?"

I don't know if anyone here remembers "Letter Land" (replaced by Jolly Phonics) mine were all obsessed with the books and there was a song tape which was on a loop in the car, then mummy had to sing it at bedtime. I still remember all the words!

DimsieMaitland · 29/06/2017 18:53

I remember Letterland. We went to a model village somewhere in Devon with all the Letterland characters but couldn't find Hairy Hat Man. DD1 cried. For hours. We told her he'd gone on holiday.

Lucy Lamp Lady was my favourite.

Andrewofgg · 29/06/2017 18:55

Green Eggs and Ham, Green Eggs and Ham
I'm fed up with Green Eggs and Ham!

EdmundCleverClogs · 29/06/2017 18:59

My young toddler gets obsessed with a certain book as well. However, he's young enough to not realise when they've been 'put out of rotation' for a few days. Some are terrible 'anyone could have written this shit' ones from The Works, but even started getting annoyed with Oi Frog/Dog when we realised we didn't need the book in front of us to read it Confused.

JennyBlueWren · 29/06/2017 19:06

It's a shame that some books do go missing. Sometimes only for a while (I love Mog but not multiple times a day!). Some are never seen again (Wobble Bear Says Yellow!).

Just make sure they're properly "missing" though as it's awful when they enthusiastically find a book which you thought had gone.

Distract with some other books until they're annoying you.

kaitlinktm · 29/06/2017 19:11

It's a developmental stage they go through- they love the repetition and the predictability. As well as helping their language development it makes them feel secure.

Like me watching re-runs of Poirot? Must have developmental delay. :(

Andrewofgg · 29/06/2017 19:15

In the summer that I was six we did a family holiday which involved a drive of 250 miles each way apart from outings. And I must have recited this a dozen times a day:

Three cheers for Pooh!
(For who?)
For Pooh -
(Why, what did he do?)
I thought you knew;
He saved his friend from a wetting!
Three cheers for Bear!
(For where?)
For Bear -
He couldn't swim,
But he rescued him!
(He rescued who?)
Oh, listen, do!
I am talking of Pooh!
(Of who?)
Of Pooh!
(I'm sorry, I keep forgetting).
Well, Pooh was a Bear of Enormous Brain
(Just say it again!)
Of enormous brain -
(Of enormous what?)
Well, he ate a lot,
And I don't know if he could swim or not,
But he managed to float
On a sort of boat
(On a sort of what?)
Well, a sort of pot -
So now let's give three hearty cheers!
(So now let's give him three hearty whiches?)
And hope he'll be with us for years and years,
And grow in health and wisdom and riches!
Three cheers for Pooh!
(For who?)
For Pooh -
Three cheers for Bear
(For where?)
For Bear -
Three cheers for the wonderful Winnie-the-Pooh!
(Just tell me, somebody - WHAT DID HE DO?)

How did I survive unthrottled?

theymademejoin · 29/06/2017 19:17

I feel your pain. My mil bought a set of fluffy books (the cover was made of fluffy material). There were 5 of them, one more badly written than the next. And, despite us having millions of really good, well written books in the house, he would regularly ask for those to be read to him.

I may have allowed him take them into the bath with him one night...

Every book my mil gave the kids was terrible. She'd buy the cheapest ones in the pound shop. I knew to lose them quickly after being scarred by the fluffy ones.

viques · 29/06/2017 19:20

Omg, this thread has brought back the nightmare that was Lyle Lyle Crocodile. we had that damn book out of the library so often it could have found its own way home. Then there was the most drearily written version of Thumbelina that went on and on, and if I tried to skip a page or two in self defence a sleepy voice would say " you missed a bit..."

thenewaveragebear1983 · 29/06/2017 19:22

I feel your pain op. I've hidden so many books, ds went through the book phase at 18months and just wanted book after book after book. We joined the library and choose 6 books every week now (after rhythm and rhyme club!) which keeps me sane. I think it's the endless repetition not so much the quality of the book, although some well written ones I can read again and again without experiencing the rage.

CheeseAtFourpence · 29/06/2017 19:23

Oh the Rainbow Magic Fairies Hmm I've told DD (6) that when she can read them herself then she can get them out of the library. Until then no chance of me reading any more!

ConfidentlyUnhinged · 29/06/2017 19:24

When I was young we went to the library twice a week. Once with mum, once with dad. Every time we went with dad we took out the cat in the hat. Every time we went with my mum she took it back. Not sure she liked it?

RiversDisguise · 29/06/2017 19:24

Scarface Claw is well-written though- Dodd uses lively language and her plots are engaging. Disney shite is always always shite.

MissionItsPossible · 29/06/2017 19:26

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That was one of my favourite books as a child (one of those book/cassette combos complete with songs Grin) Bet my parents loved that one Hmm. Although it is nostalgic the voices go RIGHT THROUGH ME!

There was also another one that I have just googled and can't find anything about it at all Sad Does anyone know it? It was a book with two stories in it, both set on Noah's ark. One was about a sports day where all the animals had to compete in different events and I think the snake(?) ended up winning. The second story was about lions that tricked Noah and the other animals into thinking they were tigers by painting stripes on themselves. Does anyone know what book I mean?

mathanxiety · 29/06/2017 19:27

You can make sure books you think have little or no value don't find a home in your bookshelves. I got rid of a Disney princess storybook that came as a birthday gift after leafing through it because it was so awful. I only bought books I liked and I didn't mind discarding books that were gifts.

junebirthdaygirl · 29/06/2017 19:28

Brings back memories here too. My ds had a book about children all over the world. Fab book but not every bloody night for a year. Im paying the price now as he is 21 and determined to travel to all those countries ( instead of getting a decent permanent job!!)

lilyborderterrier · 29/06/2017 19:29

God no I'd refuse too, thankfully my 4.5 year daughter doesn't like me frozen, and thankfully we don't have any books like that yet !!
But we have 3 stories at bedtime Shockwhich now I'm heavily pregnant and do most of the bedtimes when daddy is on lates )is being whittled down to 2. I refuse certain books. Thankfully she's fine with that as when Daddy does bedtime she gets extra stories read. I can't wait till she learns to read !

BorangesandLemons · 29/06/2017 19:40

Aliens love underpants
Sounds crazy but it's true
These books make mummy go insane
They really really do

MustBeThursday · 29/06/2017 20:10

3 year old DD insists on Hairy Maclary Sit and Jesus' Christmas Party (nativity from the innkeepers point of view - funny the first few times...) EVERY NIGHT. I know both off by heart. As does, I think, the as yet unborn DD2 who starts moving when we read them...

Redredredrose · 29/06/2017 20:24

Scarface Claw is well-written though- Dodd uses lively language and her plots are engaging. Disney shite is always always shite.

Oh I agree. I'm still sick of reading it though! He used to allow me to read any of the Hairy McClary/Slinky Malinky series, so at least there was a bit of variety! But now only the roughest and toughest of cats will do.

BabyClam · 29/06/2017 20:38

I used to have to read the 2008 road atlas each night when DS went through a road sign and map phase at 3. I did limit him to one page per night.
It really tested my creativity.

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