Bringing uninvited guests to a party

[konichiwagirl]

It was my DD's 5th birthday last week (not at school as we're in Scotland) and she invited her nursery friends and children that she plays with who are neighbours. I invited one of the children whom she's friendly with who lives a couple of doors down and the mum rsvp to say her dc was was coming. All in all 20 children RSVP'd and I made party bags etc, bought food.

Anyway on the day the mother brings along the child and four cousins in tow whom my DD has never met! i naively asked if the children were going somewhere while her child was at the party and she said no that culturally she expects to be able to bring along extra children as it's a celebration.

AIBU to think you don't bring uninvited children to a party especially when they've never met the child whose birthday it is?! I don't mind making up party bags etc and there was plenty of food but it's the principle!

No. She shouldn't have brought along the extra children.

What was meant by culturally? Where was she from?

From another thread for future reference you need to add

'Invited guests only' on the invite

"Culturally"

She "expects"

What is her culture?

How strange! YANBU

just tell her your culture thinks that's rude and that have haven't been catered for. Ha if all the mums did that you could end up with double the amount of kids!

I've read it all now...

Good grief. No, you don't bring extra kids along to a party where only one child has received an invite. Where would it stop? Weddings??? Never ending guest lists....
I'd wager that she had this mother had agreed to look after her nieces/nephews and thought that it was a good idea to chance her arm and bring them to the party.
This is precisely why I have never had a party for my kids at home, always at a centre where things like this can be sorted out by the other parent paying for their kids to join (has never happened to me I should say, but if it had I'd have to say to the parent that they could pay for their kids at the front desk as we've only paid for X number of children to attend).

YANBU! That's so rude! What if everyone brought along an extra 4 children, it's ridiculous.

She shouldn't have brought them.

"Culturally" is an excuse if ever I heard one. I'd have said, sorry that's not my culture.

Its been a long time since this one did the rounds.

"she said no that culturally she expects to be able to bring along extra children as it's a celebration"

Oh, well culturally we find it rude when people turn up with uninvited guess, its quite an imposition.

What cultural background is the mum supposedly from?

watcha the party was in a sports centre! I had set all the places up for lunch and was running around adding more

I'm not sure where she's from originally.

What culture is she from?

culturally she expects to be able to bring along extra children as it's a celebration.

Is that a cultural thing in Scotland to bring extra guests? Pretty sure it's not, then she is just being rude and being very unpleasant about it by playing the "cultural" card.

YANBU - it's so rude. What if you hadn't had enough party bags?

Sorry OP but more fool you. "No" would have sufficed.

Does she think she's teaching you something - does she think that you're from a different culture? Does she have an accent or anything of a clue?

The speed with which she got to "culturally" makes me think she has done this before.

Nightmare.

Maybe you should turn up at her house for dinner, uninvited and tell her it's cultural

agggghhhh this winds me right up!

the only person that should be brought to the party is the one whose name is on the invite - end of!

unless you say to them when handing them out, "if you'd like to bring [younger brother/sister] if childcare is an issue, please do, but let me know beforehand"

i would NEVER take another child, let alone 4 to a party that they had not been invited to - its just rude, rude !
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coddi

Nope defo not the done thing here!

You should have just said no the cheeky cow

Maybe you should turn up at her house for dinner, uninvited and tell her it's cultural

that
but make sure you invite the entire class there too

must be the culture of selfish bastards FFS

I'm not sure where she's from originally

Im sure you could have a guess at what her cultural background is. Its very different to knowing where she's originally.