Bringing uninvited guests to a party

[konichiwagirl]

It was my DD's 5th birthday last week (not at school as we're in Scotland) and she invited her nursery friends and children that she plays with who are neighbours. I invited one of the children whom she's friendly with who lives a couple of doors down and the mum rsvp to say her dc was was coming. All in all 20 children RSVP'd and I made party bags etc, bought food.

Anyway on the day the mother brings along the child and four cousins in tow whom my DD has never met! i naively asked if the children were going somewhere while her child was at the party and she said no that culturally she expects to be able to bring along extra children as it's a celebration.

AIBU to think you don't bring uninvited children to a party especially when they've never met the child whose birthday it is?! I don't mind making up party bags etc and there was plenty of food but it's the principle!

Did she really say "culturally I expect to..."?

Those words?

Also in Scotland and no, turning up out of the blue having r.s.v.ped for one child with five is unacceptable. I think getting in touch before hand and saying my Sister has dumped me with my nephews/nieces on the day of the party is it okay if I bring them around would maybe be okay if you know the party host well but anything else is hugely cheeky.

Of course if your DD gets invited to their party in return, you should round up every passing child you can (if you're anywhere near the North East, I'll lend you mine and his pack of monster friends) as a demonstration of respect towards their culture.

I think I'd be missing them off any future guest list, as you don't want to offend their cultural sensitivities.

It's not her call to bring extras as she is not hosting or financing the party. Culture is irrelevant imo and she is rude.

Rude😄 No it's not the norm - sometimes people ask party host can older siblings attend when childcare is an issue or the party host may offer to invite siblings of party guest if their own child is of a similar age. Ditto sometimes people bring younger siblings again if childcare is an issue

But never has anyone tipped up with 4kids expecting them to attend any party I have run

"she said no that culturally she expects to be able to bring along extra children as it's a celebration."

That just sounds like she's making it up to suit her as she goes along!

OP I think you need to contribute to this thread!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/2965096-Whats-the-grabbiest-behaviour-youve-ever-seen-at-a-kids-birthday-party?

Why didn't you just turn her away?

We always use a venue that only admits the invited child so nobody can bring extras. Height of rudeness to turn up with uninvited chidren and they often spoil a party too.

Very odd, I have occasionally had to take DS along to a party DD was invited to (no child care and had to stay at the party venue) but have always asked in advance.

Rude rude rude. Sorry, they have not been catered for, invited or know the celebrant. They cannot stay. Rudeladyskid can stay and enjoy her friends party but you will need to entertain the others elsewhere. Culturally, this is not acceptable.

I had a BBQ for my DS last year, one of the parents from my sons class brought five kids then complained they couldn't eat anything due to Pork contamination.

Bite my tough told her sorry but there was no other food.