I probably am bu, but sister and clothing sizes?

[sailorcherries]

Before I start I know I am bu, I am not going to say anything to her, but does this annoy other people as much as me?

Both my sister and I are doing slimming world (we started together), she had a heavier start weight/bigger clothing size than me and has lost just about 3 stone. She is doing brilliantly in her weight loss. I am 6 weeks post partum and have lost my stone of pregnancy weight and a further stone, so one stone since joining. Despite her weight loss and achievements my sister is quite competitive about our dress sizes and weight loss. I am envious of her loss and I am very supportive of her diet, I think she is doing fantastically.

I am a size 14, sometimes a 16 for a better fit, at 5ft 7 and 14.5 stone. I'd like to lose a minimum of another 4.5 stone, but we'll see how my body shaprs back up when I reintroduce my weight training.
My sister is 5ft 11 and still about 17ish stone give or take. She started at a size 20, sometimes an 18.

Today she has just text me saying "ha that's me a 14 too! I'm beating you as I've lost 3 sizes now". Accompanying this was a picture of a size 14 top. The only problem is she has squeezed herself in to the clothes and it's unflattering but she is too caught up in the lavel size to care.

I know she isn't a true size 14 but I also know she views the label on her clothes as a very important marker. She will now not buy any clothes that are not a 14, regardless of their actual fit.

I spent a long time trying to become more body positive, understanding labels and sizes vary and dressing for fit/my shape as opposed to the dress size. I suffered from ednos and it has been a hard journey, her obsession with only buying smaller clothes sizes is starting to annoy me.

It's not just her, I know lots of women who squeeze in to a smaller size because they don't want to buy a bigger size. Obviously there are a lot of contributing factors to why women place such an importance on dress sizes, but is it unreasonable to be annoyed at my sister for making such a big deal of clothing sizes (especially when it isn't accurate) and not focusing on her overall achievement and health?

My friend and I are exactly the same height at 5ft 7 and weigh around 11 stone but I'm generally a 12 all over, she's an 8 on top and sometimes a 16 for trousers so we're just entirely different shapes.

Right now I'm wearing a size 8 top. In my wardrobe is a size 18 H&M blazer. It's all bollocks.

Like pp's said, just keep congratulating her on her weight loss. Don't take the bait.

i don't think focusing on weight is much more preferable.more how clothes feel good and fit. I think focusing on how clothes feel and how you look in yourself is better for weight loss.for the focus on good health.
she and you can be any size small or otherwise and lose any amount but if you don't feel good and want to feel good for health the weight wont stay off.neither for compeotion.

This is her journey, not yours and I can understand your frustration but you don't get to decide how, just be glad she has embarked on the journey. Your previous experience doesn't equal her experience.