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AIBU?

To panic that DP isn't home?

28 replies

whereiscaroline · 26/06/2017 22:11

DP had a busy day at work today. Working on a site about an hour from our home.

Haven't heard from him all day (not unusual) bar a phone call at 19.45 which I missed. Tried calling him back 10 mins later, no answer.

It's not unheard of for him to be home late, but not this late (it's now gone 10pm) without letting me know. I've text and called him several times with no response.

I'm now panicking a bit and thinking the worst, road accident etc. I can't get into his Find My IPhone as I don't know his password. I've checked the route I think he would take home and can't find any mention of any accidents.

AIBU to be really worried? If not, what should I do?!

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magicstar1 · 26/06/2017 22:15

The call at 19:45 was probably him trying to tell you he'd be late. Try not to worry

NorthernLurker · 26/06/2017 22:16

Call at 19.45 suggests to me he's had some sort of evening plan thing come up. Fact that he's now not answering could be because he's out of phone signal which is why the I message he sent after he tried to ring hasn't arrived either. If he had gone out for food or drinks what time would you expect him home?

GreenHillsOfHome · 26/06/2017 22:18

He was probably calling to tell you he'd be late and wouldn't be able to talk because of poor reception/had to leave his phone in the car or turn it off. Try him a few times and leave it a while - or is there a work colleague you could drop a text or facebook message to?

notanevilstepmother · 26/06/2017 22:20

My mum always says bad news travels fastest. If there was an accident you most likely would have heard already, he is probably just out of signal. hand hold

Fitzsimmons · 26/06/2017 22:21

Are there any colleagues you could contact?

Rinkydinkypink · 26/06/2017 22:22

Is batteries gone. Has he any work friends you can contact

whereiscaroline · 26/06/2017 22:22

He hasn't ever socialised after work if he's driving rather than getting the train. He's driving today.

Hopefully that was what the call was for though. I don't know whether to just take myself off to bed (in which case if something has happened I'll obviously feel dreadful in the morning for not somehow investigating further).

I just feel like I should be doing something - my messages have delivered and his phone is ringing so it would be odd if he's just ignoring me. It would only take 30 seconds to reply to a text if all is well.

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whereiscaroline · 26/06/2017 22:24

Unfortunately because he was working alone on a site and not in his office today he wasn't with any colleagues who I could contact to check.

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Pru24 · 26/06/2017 22:27

Could the fact he is not answering suggest hes Driving? Hope dp gets home soon

RebootYourEngine · 26/06/2017 22:27

Im not sure if there is anything that you can do. I dont think the police would do much now. Someone correct me if i am wrong. If he isnt back in the morning id definitely phone them.

indigox · 26/06/2017 22:29

Has he been active on Facebook/Whatsapp since?

MermaidsTears · 26/06/2017 22:30

I hope you hear soon op.
My dp did this to me once when we had a newborn...a problem at the power plant or some such, an emergency, missed hes call and then he never answered.
Finally turned up at 3am i was so anxious.
I bet hes fine

Fightingthefire · 26/06/2017 22:31

What sort of site is it?

ArchieStar · 26/06/2017 22:33

How local is it to you OP? Could you get a lift down there off someone? I hope he's ok!

TheweewitchRoz · 26/06/2017 22:34

I'm sure it's nothing but could you contact his boss to find out where he was working & get someone else to go & check?

TheoriginalLEM · 26/06/2017 22:35

sure he'll be hine soon. can you take a book to bed and read?

flumpybear · 26/06/2017 22:42

Strange!! Can you ring non emergency police perhaps they can locate his GPS

DontTouchTheMoustache · 26/06/2017 22:48

May be a stupid suggestion but does he have Snapchat? There is a new feature that allows you to locate people but as he is not a teenager I suspect he won't have it...

MadeForThis · 26/06/2017 22:52

Check Facebook or whatsapp to see when he was last active.

whereiscaroline · 26/06/2017 22:52

Thank you for the handholding everyone. He's surfaced.

Was working late, called me at 19.45 to tell me and then left his phone on charge in the car.

Thank you all for being very supportive while I was having my (probably unreasonable) panic.

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Screamifuwant2gofaster · 26/06/2017 22:53

Maybe he tried to leave you a message when he called you but it didn't work? That's happened to me before. What time would he usually be home if he's working late?

notanevilstepmother · 26/06/2017 22:53

If he was lone working maybe you should ring his work if they have an out of hours number.

notanevilstepmother · 26/06/2017 22:54

Oh so pleased, it's such a worry isn't it, tell him to text next time!

TattyCat · 26/06/2017 23:11

Glad he's surfaced, but damn mobile phones. Before that, we'd have just expected one call from a pay phone and then gone to bed, knowing that was that!!

magicstar1 · 26/06/2017 23:17

Good news OP

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