Was I BU or were they?

[1drink]

I've NC, it's very identifying anyway but here goes.

It was my sister's birthday last week so on Saturday we all had a get together. I'm a recovered alcoholic. I can now drink 1 or 2 drinks and leave it be. I have no intention of ever getting 'smashed' again.

On Saturday my cousin was handing out glasses of Prosecco and handed me a flute. My sister's DH then said "What the fuck are you doing [cousin], [1drink] can't drink anything at all! You know she shit she's put [my DM] through these past few years." Cousin then apologised, looked embarrased as she had no idea and then took my flute away.

My aunt and uncle whom also had no idea then spent the rest of the evening watching me and asking what was going on. I now feel like my personal life has been put on show for all to glare mawkishly at. My sister knew about my alcoholism and I'm under no illusion that she kept it hidden from her DH but for him to show me up at like that really riles. I did send him a message saying that he was out of order and now sister thinks I was BU. I'm now wondering did they all know and I've just naively been thinking I managed this and got over it without my whole family knowing everything.

I'm afraid your embarrasment doesn't come into it, just as others' embarrassment probably didn't come into it for you when you were drinking. Embarrassment, smoothing things over, and speaking in code are all enabling behaviours, and maybe your relatives just don't want ever to go back to it.

I have not drank alcohol for over twenty years, the taste just doesn't appeal to me at all. I have had many an evening out and party without drinking alcohol and nobody has looked at me funnily when I have told them I don't drink, in fact many congratulate me and say they couldn't do it themselves in a social environment and others just tell me not to remind them of their drunken behaviours the next day as I will be the only one who will remember it!
Nothing wrong with partying sober :)