MIL being stupid about allergies

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So Ds (2) has a delayed gluten allergy -throws up a lot after few hours. MIL invited family over the weekend for his birthday where she had pizzas, and all sorts of gluten stuff all over the place at really close proximity of my toddler.
I had already asked her to keep these stuff out of reach and have gluten free close to him, she agreed but she didn't do it! Boy screaming his head off as he wasn't allowed a pizza, cake and all that (I had brought my own but obviously he had to have what he wasn't allowed!). I ended up being locked away to keep him away. I repeatedly asked her to move these stuff a bit further but she wasn't having any... At the end I felt bad and I stopped asking I just kept him away in another room in his own party

I'm quite upset, she puts others above him! Her being a nice host is more important than my ds allergy! I don't get it she's supposed to be family... AIBU? WWYD in this case?

If it was his party she was completely out of order! If it was not his party there may be some middle ground, but even so if I had a grandson with allergies I would make it as easy as possible for him to enjoy his time at my home.

Ban him from visiting her house. Next time she pulls a stunt like that, pick him up and walk out. You cant trust her until she accepts theres a medical issue and takes it seriously,
I've been there with cows milk and peanuts, and I've had to throw away bags full of clothes and shoes as well as look after sick DC's.

I can't believe someone has suggested 'maybe you should have given him something beforehand'. Ffs

It was his party. Why would you put out a load of food he couldn't eat. And feed him before so you don't have to cater for him at his party? Really?!?!

Oh it's crap when people behave this way. DD has delayed allergies to multiple foods including gluten (also sick a couple of hrs later). I really feel for you. I have "friends" who manage to ensure there isn't even crisp she's allowed to eat!!

I just ignore them and bring her packed tea she's delighted with.

If your DS is being tested for coeliac disease, then he needs to be eating gluten, otherwise the test will come back as a false negative.

To be honest, it sounds very like coeliac disease. DD1 was diagnosed at nearly 3, but her symptoms were that she vomited a lot and was extremely underweight - she looked malnourished, with stick thin legs and a big belly.

All three of my DDs have coeliac disease and if they eat gluten, within about 2 hours they start vomiting violently - this lasts for about 3 hours until they've got it all out of their system. They are old enough to know what is and isn't gluten free (and will always ask if they're not sure), but they have been 'poisoned' by restaurants serving them gluten by mistake and the reaction is awful and upsetting for them.

Next time she comes to dinner cook something she doesn't like. I know it's not the same thing as an allergy but still, why cater to her desires when she won't cater to your son#'s needs?

(Petty, I know!)

I have a wheat intolerance and I think a lot of people don't take it seriously because it's become fashionable to not eat wheat. Believe me I'd rather a pizza than being trendy. Your poor little man, refuse all parties at hers from now on and do it yourself! X

Another saying YANBU - she can insist all she likes, but from now on, you will throw your DS's birthday parties and will be careful about how long you bring him to MIL because she can't cater for him and he's too young (and will continue to be so for a few years) to be expected to monitor his own food intake.

Organise something with his friends next year (by 3 he should have his own little group) instead of a family get together. Let MIL arrange whatever she wants.