To masturbate secretly but married

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Just that. Happily married. 2 DC. Decent sex life 2-3x per week but still regularly look after myself secretly if I get time in bed alone... is this reasonable? Would DH be upset if he knew. Sometimes he's part of the fantasy sometimes not but have found from a young age it is a good way to relax and go to sleep... I guess in our sex life he 'finishes' more often than I do but I wouldn't attribute that we still have fun and he cares and is loving.... is this normal? Ok?

Lol. It's absolutely normal. You think he doesn't do it too? It's your body, it's not cheating!!

It's fine.

It is absolutely normal

Wanking is completely normal OP

Unless you're doing it on the bus or something

That's exactly the word I was looking for 'cheating' only partly as in betrayal a bit in the sense of taking an easy option sometimes... does that sound bad?

On the bus LOL!!!

Playing alone is fine.. But if he doesn't make sure you are done during /after sex it's not unreasonable to tell him!! You are entitled to a satisfactory sex life too!!

If you are masturbating because you dont find sex with him satisfying, tackle the sex part.

Totally normal, the masturbation part. But why are you not finishing every time when you have sex?

TBH sometimes I come easily with him... sometimes not but if I asked for him to try and it wasn't working he'd go for hours trying every which way... not always what I want if you know what I mean. I get a happy ending plenty.
I guess I'm a bit greedy...

I masterbate regularly alongside a healthy sex life with dp. Dp knows I do it though, but don't think he quite realises the frequency.

Like you mentioned, I do it as a means to relax before going to sleep, I find it helps shut off my brain. So although it is a sexual act, and there is sexual pleasure being achieved, the motives arent really sexual.

It's perfectly normal and it doesn't have to be a secret. You're not greedy; you just have a high sex drive.

True Marvel I'm the same it's almost a way to de compress.

I do sometimes have multiple men in my fantasies wouldn't want him to feel he has to live up to that might be quite scary in reality.

Totally normal.

Sometimes for me it isn't even about feeling horny, it's more about getting those sleepy hormones so I can have a good night's sleep. Sounds like it might be the same for you.

Wanking is completely normal OP

Unless you're doing it on the bus or something

😂 😂

Masturbation is normal but I don't think keeping it a secret is. Why can't you be open about it, I'm sure he does it just as much.

Well I'm not sure he does... his comments suggest he saves himself for me... which is very nice. When I'm away I come back to a very horny and 'full' DH!

I finish many times each time DH and I do it. Still find time to sort myself out when I get the chance not on the bus though

of course its normal?

Wanting an orgasm and pleasuring yourself is not greedy, it's perfectly normal. My best orgasms are by myself. It's lovely to share, but it should never be a requirement.

How old are you?

36