Am I an awful mother?
ladyjam · 24/06/2017 23:08
My 4 week old baby has bowel problems, so I had her laying across my lap so I could massage her tummy. All of a sudden, she stretched her legs out straight and the force of the stretching sent her flying off my lap onto the floor! She wasn't hurt at all, but I feel awful and I cant stop crying and I feel like I'm not looking after her properly.
Has this happened to anyone else?
LoveMyLittleSuperhero · 24/06/2017 23:12
It's happened to all of us I think. There was a thread a few weeks ago with everyone confessing the accidents they've had with their baby DCs. I spent the night up A&E last week because my 8 month old had a nasty tumble and landed on her head. (she's fine now but they wanted to observe her).
Have a nice hot drink (or maybe a bar of chocolate) and try to relax. These things do happen and she's fine. You aren't a bad mom, in fact if you were a bad mom you wouldn't be upset right now.
TathitiPete · 24/06/2017 23:13
Well, not that situation exactly but yes I have accidentally hurt my child, I bumped her head off the door frame. Underestimated how tall she was. Yes it feels dreadful but no, IMO your not an awful mother at all, you made a mistake while trying to help her.
DM also admits to accidentally letting DSis fall off the bed. I don't remember his old DSis was. She was fine though.
GoodyGoodyGumdrops · 24/06/2017 23:14
Oh god yes! I dropped dc1 in the bath, and I vividly remember looking down at him lying placidly on the bottom of the bath, gazing up at me through the water. Then I lifted him up, he sneezed, and we continued with the bath.
All 3 of my children have rolled off my bed at some point in their first year.
Dc2 was a right kicking wriggler, and did what yours has done, several times. Eventually I learned to either keep ahold of her, or turn her to lie across my lap rather than along it. Also developed faster reflexes to catch her.
And I dropped dc3 in the loo once, lifting him slippery-wet out of the bath. You'd have thought I'd learned by then to wrap the baby in the towel while taking them out of the bath. Well, yes, I had. But we all make these daft little mistakes.
Congratulations on your LO. Enjoy her and don't worry too much.
limestrawberry · 24/06/2017 23:19
I dropped DD2 from my chest height to the floor when she was a couple of WEEKS - I only caught her through sheer reflex thing - put my hands out and caught her by the side of her cheeks.
I got the most horrendous fright, I really did. It's horrible OP you poor thing. I bet your knees are all shaky
ArmedHerring · 24/06/2017 23:22
YABU for thinking you're an awful mother. I remember the first time my son fell off the bed. I felt awful because I wasn't watching him closely enough. Couple that with the time I accidentally cut his finger while trimming his nails as he was sleeping, and I felt like the worst mother ever at that moment. and enjoy your new wee baby.
Babypassport · 24/06/2017 23:23
I was sat on the floor with my 11 month old in my lap last week, reading a story. I was distracted for literally a couple of seconds and the baby launched herself out of my lap and faceplanted on the tile floor. She was absolutely fine but I felt terribly guilty.
You're not a bad mother at all; despite our best efforts these things will happen!
ObviousChild · 24/06/2017 23:37
On Friday I accidentally catapulted my 8 week old out of a bouncy chair and he hit his head on the floor. It was horrible. And my toddler, Who had watched the whole thing, just looked at me and said "mummy, what did you did?"
I took him to the GP to get checked out, and she said he was absolutely fine, thank goodness. But I felt really shit, and so the GP told me about how she had accidentally dropped her week old to baby of the bed and banged her head.
We have ALL done it. Please don't feel upset.
Aperolspritzer123 · 24/06/2017 23:41
When my dd was a week old, middle of the night I was carrying her Moses basket into my room to put it on the stand with her in it. I must've accidentally let go of one of the handles and she rolled out onto the floor as I was walking past the bed!! I never told anyone that before I was too ashamed I watched her all night after...!
Aperolspritzer123 · 24/06/2017 23:44
And I did the head bang off the door frame too but that was with my best friend's baby!! I totally misjudged the space.. I thought she was gonna kill me. It was her third so she just shrugged it off and said she's done it loads of times over the years.....!
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