Barbie77 · 22/06/2017 16:40
Hello, I have just joined Mumsnet and I'm nervous about doing this. Today one of my twins was unwell but the other one went to school as usual. When I went to collect the well one I had to leave the sick one in the car in the picking up zone in the school grounds. As I was rushing back to the car I was trying to get past two Mother's when I got past one of them very loudly said behind me to the other mother how some people don't have any patience well I just turned round and looked directly at her and said to her crossly that I had an unwell child in the car and that they had a high temperature and she just arrogantly shook her head and I ran back to the car. Coming home I cried and my twin vomited. I just find other Mother's very critical and judgemental. It really gets me down. I would like to know was I in the wrong?
Mycarsmellsoflavender · 22/06/2017 16:47
I thought this was going to be about someone judging you for leaving a sick child unattended in the car. Which has happened to me.
So you rushed past some mums and they commented that some people have no patience. Without more detail, we can't comment. Did you push past them or say excuse me please?
Decaffstilltastesweird · 22/06/2017 16:50
Even if you did push past, the other mum sounds unnecessarily confrontational tbh. If you didn't, then her behaviour sounds utterly bonkers. But yes, it's not something that would normally make me cry. Don't think about it too much op. It's not worth getting upset over.
Hope your dc is ok soon .
TenForward82 · 22/06/2017 16:53
OP, you have twins, it's (probably) hot as buggery where you are, your baby is sick and you're under stress. Don't let it bug you. Some people are rude. You've had a cry, it's out of your system, try not to think about it and have an ice cream or some chocolate 🍫
PickAChew · 22/06/2017 16:54
A bit of courtesy and a few manners in all directions make most interactions with others somewhat more pleasant.
You say excuse me if you need to pass and it'll be a squeeze.
If you accidentally bump someone, you apologise
And, if you accidentally step in someone's way when they would have had room to get past, otherwise, you apologise, too, even if it might have been their fault.
Hurts no one and makes everyone feel better. If someone comes hurtling past you, though, it's human nature to be peed off by it.
PickAChew · 22/06/2017 17:03
Social anxiety can be crippling, but you're going to have to face other parents for a fair few years. It's good to practice breezy - put on a don't give a fuck mask. Good morning, excuse me, whatever's needed, and keep moving without engaging any more deeply. That's much easier than trying to slink into the background because, as you've discovered, it's easy to balls up and end up with a much more negative reaction than you were seeking.
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