AIBU?
Runlovingmummy81 · 21/06/2017 07:52
We booked our holiday first so automatically got the passports. Asked ex husband to pay half as he would be using it in the same year. He said no. Now has decided to take them away a few weeks after us but is refusing to contribute as he pays maintenance. His default answer everything....
Runlovingmummy81 · 21/06/2017 08:04
In normal circumstances it wouldn't bother me. But he has and is emotionally abusive so makes everything difficult. He waves cms and court orders round when it suits him. It's never about putting the kids first.
In reality he won't pay and the dcs will go away with him because I wouldn't want them missing out.
I just don't trust him to return them after the holidays either.
Runlovingmummy81 · 21/06/2017 08:04
In normal circumstances it wouldn't bother me. But he has and is emotionally abusive so makes everything difficult. He waves cms and court orders round when it suits him. It's never about putting the kids first.
In reality he won't pay and the dcs will go away with him because I wouldn't want them missing out.
I just don't trust him to return them after the holidays either.
redfairy · 21/06/2017 08:15
I take it in turns with my ex. He takes DD to France every year but I pack her off on all her school trips. I do insist it stays with me as I'm more organised but he knows this and always hands it straight to me on their return. It works well. Her next passport is her adult one so I may suggest going halves due to increased cost.
.Traveller123 · 21/06/2017 09:05
To Runlovingmummy81. The CM of 750 was based on my earnings and reference to the Child Maintenance Calculator on CMO website. The SM of 400 is payable for 4 years. Logic was that by then our son will be 14 and his mother will then be able to work full time and hence be able to earn more. SM was determined by reference to my net income and essential outgoings taking into account my needs too.
Less than 400 per month is not a lot for 2 children, but all depends on what NRP earns. Make sue you claim your full entitlements of: Child Benefit, Child Tax Credits and Working Tax Credits if you are working. You may also be able to claim childcare costs depending on age of children?
Traveller123 · 21/06/2017 09:29
To Runlovingmummy81. That's what judge said when he rejected ex-wife's application for 4,500 per month for life and to be given all 3 properties in the family. I wanted to settle amicably, but ex-wife was too greedy and a fortune was spent on legal costs (around 40K). I would have rather ex-wife had received that money rather than be spent on legal as total cost to myself would be same regardless of who received what. Either ex-wife was given bad advice or she ignored what she did not want to hear? Get the feeling it was the latter as every time the courts rejected her maintenance applications she moved onto another solicitor.
Ex-wife has net income of around 2250 per month from; part time work, Tax Credits and Maintenance. More than many other divorced women and more than many people who work full time I imagine. But do I get to see our son? Never. Apparently I am selfish and bad example
Your husband will be required to pay CM for the 2 children based on what he earns. CMO is the first point of call if you think what you receive is incorrect.
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